i posted on here last friday about my ex being verbally abusive to me infront of 13th month old. hed been having access for just 7 weeks as he went to court to get parental responsibility (id never said he couldnt have access)but while the courts were taking so long and it was very bitter he didnt visit, i definitely couldnt have had him in my home.i phoned his mother and told her if he wanted to see baby could she visit with him and explained why, the fact being that i hate the bloody man at the moment. after the weekend and thinking about it i thought sod it im not having him coming round a week before xmas and there being an atmosphere (i have an 11year old also, no his)and ruining xmas. last xmas i was too soft and allowed him round xmas day which culminated in him being a controlling arse and my elder son crying allday because of the agro.anway, sorry im waffling, he emailed monday to ask when he could visit. no apology or anything, he obviously thinks its totally acceptable to scream abuse at me over the babies head!i replied that he should go back to his solicitor and find out about contact centres. yesterday he emailed to say fine and what arrangement would happen in the meantime. i said nothing cause of his outburst. im now worried about what the post will bring ie:shitty solicitor letter. his dad is the same and has told him that he himself should be allowed to have babe overnight!over my dead body.help please.x