Another no sex thread....

[beellix]

I know it's been done many many times on here, but I need to know what to do. We have 2 DCs, youngest is 13mo, and yes we are exhausted, etc etc.

But it's been TWO YEARS since we last had sex.

We are more like joint childminders and on and off mates than husband and wife. We hug, never kiss, never even attempt anything intimate. I am scared to as my shattered self esteem could not handle rejection.

Then today (tmi alert) i cleaned out shower and found that he's not having a problem with the mechanics of it all judging by his extra time in the shower in the morning.... I am not a prude but why the hell can't he spend that extra time in bed with me and at least attempt to be intimate?

To be honest, I have had enough. I have told him how depressed it makes me, he says we'll sort it out then that's it for another few months.

I can't stay in a marriage like this, sex is absolutely not the be all for me but it is an important part of a relationship. But I can't ask him to leave as our DS worships him (he is a good dad).

What the fuck should I do???

Thanks betty, your name made me laugh, rice pudding made me boke though...

There is help andvsupport of a financial nature which will mean you will be better off working part time. I think it would be advisable to book an appointment with CAB. They arevinvaluable in these matters.

Do you actually want to leave your husband? Do you still find him sexually attractive? Some people here seem to jump on a bandwagon and tell you to leave him. My and my DH have went through times of no sex for months, not as long as 2 years though!! It is very true that the more you have the more you want it just takes time to get back into that routine of having sex again. Can you get your DCs looked after for a night and go out, have a nice meal, a few drinks and then come home and have some time together. It doesn't have to be full sex but even exploring each others bodies again or what about sending some suggestive text messages to him. My DH works away from home alot and we would sex text, by the time he gets home I am gagging for it lol.
Good luck