dh and I both work FT and from home. Both often doing lots of (unpaid) OT at teh moment (recesion etc). dh will not agree to get any help (does not want a "stranger in the house"). In theory we split the HW but in practice the following always happens:
One of dhs "allocated tasks" needs doing before a certain time (say washing uniform in time to dry it before school or bathing children in time for bed). dh doesn't do it but spends time doing something else non-essential. If I mention that this task needs doing he says he will do it "later". Later comes too late so kids end up with wet jumpers for school or going to bed too late (as in school have complained that they are too tired).
I physically cannot do all the HW and my job and love my job (and we need the income). So what do I do? Any attempt to talk to dh about time management has failed. I've started putting kids to bed most nights (so they are not tired) but even that has caused us to row as he likes puttign the kids to bed and says that I'm doing it delibarately to stop him doing it. Have tried agreeing that they need to be in bed by xxx but it still gets later and later each night. Ditto with washing - he is currently watching recorded TV show - last week they ended up with wet jumpers on the Monday but was sunny so okay. I mentioned that washing needed to go on soon if it were to dry in time and he got relly cross and shouted that I was only saying this as I had a problem with him watching TV. So I give up and I do washing - okay minor point here :) - am not bothered about the washing - just an example as this happens with everything - ie he puts it off so long that either I do it (as will negatively impact on kids/me if I don't) or it doesn't get done (in which case he often gets cross and shouts at me about state of house etc).
Any suggestions? (Sorry - post got long :) )