How do I speak to my mother about this?

[ImYourDaughter]

I would like to marry a man! however my mum absolutely loathes him... I really believe this is the man I want commit to for life and he feels this way about me too. He has told his mother and family. But I still haven't told my mum, she will be angry and make things difficult for me. My family is Caribbean and his family are Nigerian, family are so important to us both when making these decisions. I'm not sure how to talk to her? When to talk to her? ...What do I say?

(I'm asking on this website because I thought it would be helpful to get mothers opinions)

Apologies for hi-jacking your post, OP, but troisgarcons' earlier comment struck a chord with me.

Any issue thst your dm's has with your boyfriend has arisen from her concern for your wellbeing. As you are so close it won't be easy for her to see you married to anyone, but especially not to any man that she believes may cause you pain.

As you've been advised by others, your boyfriend is going to have to work hard to regain her trust and you will both need to reassure her that the problems you had in your relationship have been resolved, and won't occur again.

Does your dm know that you have resumed your relationship with your former boyfriend, or have you kept this from her? In what way do you think she may make things difficult for you when you tell her that you want to marry him?

How have his family reacted to your news?