Please help me to help her

[BookNerd]

Hi everyone,

Newbie here and I was wondering if you could possibly give me some advice.

My best friend's fiance has left her. It was all friendly, as there is a child involved, but we've since found out there was also another woman involved. It seems 'something' may have been going on for a while, its all very unclear.

She is devastated and I was wondering if anyone else could give me some advice on how I can best support her and look after her - any words of wisdom from experience?

Hello.

The best thing that you can do for her is to listen and hold her hand for a while.

Just let her talk. She'll probably go through various stages of 'grief' but she needs to let it all out.

One thing I would advise is don't slag him off, let her do that. Otherwise she'll wonder why you hadn't said something sooner IYSWIM?

The second best thing you can do for her is to suggest she joins mumsnet and help her write a post in this section so that she can get more support from others who've gone through the same experience.

As mouseface has said, you should resist any temptation to slag him off - happily, responders here won't be under any similar constraint

Yes come here - there is a specific thread called The Heartbreak Club. She will have all sorts of emotions but yes, she will want to talk. Give her a hug - I know exactly how she feels.