AAAAAGGGGHHH - are all DHs like this??!!

[XmasPud]

My DH will not/can not deal with paperwork/beaurocracy. He is an intelligent bloke but avoids it like the plague.
So - I have gone out, bought all the Xmas cards, presents, written them all myself, signed them from us all, taken and printed out photos to put in for long distance relatives etc etc All I wanted DH to do was to go to the post office for me and post them. I even separated cards out into mainland UK 1st class and ones that needed to go abroad fgs.
He agreed that if I did all that, he would post them, along with getting the children?s passport forms checked (again - I filled them all in, did the photos and got the countersigning done...)
He huffed and puffed last week, didn?t get the time yesterday (despite me warning him of post deadlined). Finally, he has gone with all the paperwork and what a bloody song and dance - made me explain it all three times, denied that I had even asked him to do the passports (despite several long boring convos on the topic). He has just phoned me from the post office to say the queue is too long so he is going to leave it and do it tomorrow "if he has the time" AAAAAAGGGGGHHHH. He makes me SOOO mad
I refuse to do it all for him but know that he is going to whine and moan about it all over again tomorrow. He forgets that I have done all the hard work, let alone sort out the kids endless parties, school stuff, their cards etc etc etc
rant over

Yep, mine is. I sometimes think he would fall to pieces if I wasn't around and then realise he'd have to get on and do things himself

kind of! dp does all our bills and that kind of paperwork,
if i give him stuff to post he puts it in the post tray at work! lol

but yes, in terms of everything being a HUGE deal for him, and denying he has been asked to do things... exactly the same!

Yup mines blooming useless in that department too!

Mine is great at important paperwork (mortgage, insurances etc), but is rubbish at birthday/christmas cards etc.

ditto ndp!

Ha. Nice to think I am not alone - not that I am enjoying the thought of you lot suffering as well
I think it with my DH it is anything he considers "domestic paperwork" is a waste of his valuable time. He would happily spend hours on the internet helping out a web buddy sort out some random computer programming fault but deal with his own daughter?s passports so that we can visit his bloody relatives? Totally outrageous of me to even ask. Still fuming despite a coffee and mince pie

Oh dear My DH wrote & posted all the Christmas cards last weekend while I was lying in bed watching 'pride & prejudice' on DVD for the umpteenth time. He's taken a day off work which he's spending tidying the flat and organising our boiler to be fixed. Yesterday he told me all he'd done (taken the rubbish to the tip, cleaned the garage, done all the laundry & ironing, cooked my dinner, washed up) and all I could say was 'ermmm... well, I'm still carrying your firstborn. But that's all I've achieved today!' I am a bad, bad wife...

thebecster - could you hire him out?!! Sounds too good to be true. Oru boiler needs a service too so would be great if he could organise that for me as I know DH won?t get round to it until the New Year, despite the dodgy fumes

dh wouldn't do it if i didn't ask him to but at least he does it! i think it's a ploy that a huge number of men use: moan about doing a task so much or do it so badly that you end up doing it yourself to save earache and/or time. when I met dh, before we moved in together he sent NO christmas cards and told everyone he worked with not to bother sending ones to him as they wouldn't get any back in return and he would quite happily carry on with this malarky if he was single, I'm sure. in fact my MIL said the other day, if christmas was left up to blokes it would probably end up getting cancelled. i think they see all the card-writing and posting (and wrapping!) an irrelevence. the passport stuff is very annoying though, i'd be peed off too!

i do all housework paperwork except his parking fines of which he always has at least 5.

Don't know why you put up with it! I would just do my family and sign the cards from me, I would explain to his that as you have your own family to think of, you have asked dh to sort out his side, if they don't get anything then they know who to blame!

I don't do Christmas cards, not anymore. I bought my family's presents from the internet, they have all received a certificate saying that I have paid for a family in Africa to have a goat or an essential hygiene kit, etc. I might give him ideas on his mum and dad but the present buying is up to him.

Can I ask, what did they do before they coupled with you? Why do they assume that once they are with you, you will take on all the responsibility. They only get away with it because you let them you know!

I'm not sharing him I know when I'm well off! Actually he's just like my Dad. Dad always did half the childcare & housework, even though he worked really hard as a GP. He writes the Xmas cards with my Mum - she writes, he addresses all the envelopes while they listen to carols, it's a little ritual they have (ahhh!). I always said I wouldn't settle down unless I could find someone who'd be as kind to me as my Dad always has been. And people always said 'well, you'll never get married then'. But I found one! They do seem to be in VERY short supply though. I had to kiss a LOT of frogs before I found my DH! Most men seem to be neither use nor ornament...

yup mine's useless too! Great father to kids, good help with tidying up but when it comes to peperwork, cards, pressies, cooking, washing, shopping, in fact anything else I am on my own. I know exactly how he managed before me - his mother did everything for him! He is asleep on sofa now after staying out late to play darts last night - think I might wake him up in some startling way as punishment!

yes. its a man thing.

I usually do all the form-filling and letter-writing but dh is so relieved to escape it all that he's more than willing to arrange to post it all off if need be. He's usually much more organised at Christmas than I am. I dither about and find it hard to decide what I want/need. Dh plans it all out like some kind of military campaign and gets it all over and done with. He writes the cards for his friends/family and I do the cards for mine.

sounds exactly like my dh..I hate to say it!! Unless it involves watching footie or sitting in the pub it's a chore !

Er.... no pud.
My dh does all the paperwork and logistical stuff.
He won't let me do it!

He's away this week but even phoned to remind me to put the bins out.
He also hoovered my car for me before I left.

I married him precisely because he has got it together bigtime!!!

ditto NDP. Mine is good at important admin, setting up and maintaining direct debts, etc, but useless at anything he doesn't quite see the point of, like birthday cards

Mr AS wrote the cards while I was wrapping the pressies on Sunday. He then put up the tree and decorated it (very nicely but slightly minimalist - to the trained eye) Generally I do the 101 little things that always need doing but he does all the bills and paperwork so he is a little star - I admit I "positioned" them early on in the relationship as manly tasks - I am a helpless female etc.

Xmas Pud - my DH is EXACTLY like yours. And after 24 years together I'm getting more and more p*ssed off about it.