Asking friends to be godparents

[Monkeymaker]

we would like to ask some friends to be godparents to our ds. Previously I was going to be their surrogate, but due to a health issue i was not able to fulfil that role, but went on to have another child of our own.

We are in two minds whether to ask them because 1 I know it has been hard for them when we announce we were having another child, but they find it hard with anyone and 2 is it like rubbing their nose in it by asking them or would they be offended if we didn't ask them.

We don't have a lot of options for godparents we may have to double up anyway, has anyone else done this.

Well first of all you need to know if they are confirmed into the Church of your choice, otherwise they won't be able to do it anyway.

I don't think they'd be offended. I would n't be. I'd be flattered.

I think they'd probably be flattered. I know I would. It's our daughters christening tomorrow, and our friends next door are going to be her godparents. They had IVF a few years ago, and it didn't work out, so I know it's been very hard for them, but they're more than happy that we've asked them.

I actually nattered about it quite a bit, we really didn't have many people to chose from, and I didn't want to ask I'm case they felt they had to say yes, but I'm really glad I did, they're over the moon. I'm sure your friends would be too.

I've no direct experience of this, but I echo the other posters who suspect they'd be delighted to be asked. It sounds like they're very close friends of yours - obviously, otherwise you wouldn't be considering them for the role. In this context, perhaps you could have a frank discussion with them? I think if it was me, I'd appreciate your honesty - and the opportunity to be upfront in response to you.

I was honoured to be asked to be godmother to a friend's LO. We were having fertility investigations at the time too.

Ask your friends, possibly in writing -email/letter, and let them really think about it before giving their answer.

Thanks everyone for your replies gratefully received.