Hi there
I just wanted some advice really. My husband and I have been married just over 6 years. We separated 2 years ago in January. We have recently decided to try and make it work again. We haven't moved back in together but are spending weekends together with our 2 sons (7&2). At the end of 2007 my husband had a breakdown and spent 6 months in and out of hospital and was sectioned twice. He was diagnosed with bipolar. This was controlled by medication. He stopped taking the medication a year ago and, touch wood, hasn't had any manic episodes since. In early 2008 during manic phases he gambled £1000's and used prostitutes. I forgave him and we went onto have our second son in 2009. However, we separated in January 2010 but have worked things out amicably, during the last couple of months we have talked about working it out. Despite what has happened he is a great Dad, we have a laugh together and I do trust him, but the spark has gone, I don't find him physically attractive anymore, he has put on 3 stone since we first met, making him 20.7 stone, he's 6'4 almost so can carry it off, almost. He just doesn't seem to bothered about losing it, I've offered to exercise with him, find out about Slimming World etc but he's just doesn't do anything about it.....
I know no relationship is perfect but is it enough to have everything but the spark? I'm 39 and don't feel old enough to just make do with a, 'companion', just yet!! we have the things that a lot of couples don't? can you get the passion back? I just don't know.......
Our sex life went downhill in 2004 after the birth of our first son as I had PND and a third degree tear which took 5 months to heal, and we never really got it back.....