I was very badly let down by my ex in January of this year and obviously my guard is well and truly up. I have now being seeing someone for about 6 weeks.
He is nice, I like him, we've loads in common, get on great, no shortage of conversation. But there's a but...A couple of things he has done have been totally irresponsible - moneywise. I find him very needy, constantly looking for reassurance. I already have young dd who needs me, I don't need another.
Just one example of how irresponsible he is. He went to the US and brought thousands of dollars in cash, I told him he was only asking for trouble and would he not bring his bank card and withdraw money as needed. There was no talking to him. As far as I was concerned, none of my business really.
Anyway, after a long journey, I'd say well over 14 hours, he decided he needed something to eat/drink. He went out of the hotel with the $3000 cash in his pocket, had his bite to eat/few beers and he then woke up the next day in his hotel room with only $500 left. He thinks his drink was spiked etc etc and he was mugged but he doesn't remember what happened.
Obviously he's absolutely devastated. He is trying to get a flight home. I was the first person he rang when this happened - alarm bells immediately - I would have thought he would have contacted his friends/family first. If the roles were reversed, I wouldn't be calling him first. Surely he cannot depend on me at this early stage?
Any advice much appreciated. Do you think I should run for the hills or am I being too hard on him?