I have been with my partner for over 15 years, we have a 4 year old and another on the way. We have never had a very happy relationship but we loved each other and our relationship always required work. After our first child was born, we were extremely happy for a year or so. Due to a family bereavement and trying for a baby for over a year, our relationship was under a lot of strain. I was tired and he would make comments like "why are you tired?" or "oh, you're tired again" and he kept wanting sex all the time but i wasn't in the mood. It got to the point where he'd keep groping me during the day when i just wanted a cuddle instead. I fell pregnant. Then i met someone new. This person was understanding, loving, caring. I have only known him for a few months but since after the first 2 times we met, we clicked. We have lots in common and our feelings for each other is mutual. When people say you know when you meet the right one, this is how it feels for both of us. My partner knows, as does the rest of our families. Everyone is hurt. I no longer love my partner the way i used to but i still love to be a family with him. My choices now are to leave him and start live as a single mum with the possibility of seeing this new guy or stay with my partner and try and work things out for the kids sake. I'm afraid that deep down i will never be able to forget this new guy and never stop wondering what could have happened. If i had a very happy 15 years with my partner, i would know to stay. But i worry for my kids, i don't want to ruin their lives but i want to be happy also. I need advice. Would like to hear from people who have been in a similar situation and hear the outcome of the choices made. I feel really torn. Right now, me and my kid have moved out of our home temporarily, i need to make a decision soon. People may reckon it's the pregnancy hormones, but i'm not sure.
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