have i overeacted?

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i think i may have i was so angry initially, now i feel stupid. i have having a fight(lately a daily event) with dh and he threw in that he will be going away for 3 weeks in march. on a motorbike ride with his club. i spat it. i felt so livid after everything i have been through with him and we havent had a holiday since i was preggie with our first (november 2002). now he can find time to leave me with our business and rev his motor bike engine and ride some 5000 kms. i know i sound petty and selfish, its only 3 weeks.

I agree... I would be livid too! You and the family should come first

mmm. have to say, I would not be pleased. 3 weeks is quite a long time actually.

Do you work together in your own business? If so, then how will you manage to take a holiday together?

why are you having fights all the time?

I think he knew you would react badly - otherwise he would not have thrown it into an arguement - but would have mentioned it at a more reasonable time.

To be honest - I think if either partner wants to take time away - especially extended time - which I think 3 weeks is - especially if you have kids) - it should only be done with the agreement of both parties.

Sounds like you could both benefit from some relate sessions - otherwise there is a possibility you won't be together come March

I don't think you have over reacted. DH travels a lot because of his business and even when the travelling brings a lot of extra money I would be livid if he told me he was going to be away for 3 weeks. If he told me it was for a holiday.... god protect him, I would book myself -alone- into a 3 weeks holiday to start immediatly and wait for him to beg me to return.

geez! i forgot to reply to this - catching up on my posts now!

thanks guys for responding!

i now know i am not an over reacting controlling possessive wacked wife - dont worry my words not his!!

on a positive - he is gonna have such a numb bum and serve him right!!!