Hi, I am new here and wanted to see what you all thought of this situation to see if I am overreacting or not.... my DS (9) was iinvited bby a friend for a sleepover, I said yes as he has been before and I trusted the mother so no problem. When I dropped him off, I saw friend getting ready to go out and enquired where she was going when she informed me that they were all going to a relative's for a party and that they would stay the night.... my DS was to stay in an annex next to the main house with his friend... I was not particularily happy about not having been told about this before, and stupidly let him go as I didn't want to disappoint the boys who were all around us as we spoke.... I also trusted the mother who is/was
a good friend of mine.... Next morning, I received a text saying all was ok and could he stay another night.... I declined as double sleepover could be a bit much... but I stated I could pick him up a bit later so that they could have a full days' play. Mother asked me to pick up at 7pm but I declined as it was too late and said I'd be there earlier. This is when she told me that she was working and the boys were still at relative's house (whom I've only met briefly a long time ago, and who lives in another town , address unknown to me) so she could not bring him home till later. I asked who was eith the boys, thinking her hubbie must be, but no, my son was with her relatives. I eventually got son home (dropped off quickly by her DH so could not talk) and found out from DS that they had all gone to party but that my friend and her DH had gone home after party and had not stayed the night at the relative's house with DS and friend, he had not seen them again, nor had he asked her to text me asking for another night..... furthermore he disclosed that he and his friend were dropped off in local town centre for a few hours with £20 on their own..... I am fuming! I have not allowed my DS to go into town on his own yet and do not expect someone else to do so without checking with me first, even worse I was speechless at them not sleeping in the same house? what if my DS had needed someone in the night? or had an emergency? When I agree to a sleepover it is because I trust those parents to take care of my child not to 'outsource' his care to a third party without my knowledge?!?!? Is it me? or is this reasonable behaviour??