My Man how the Hell did I end up here

[righthen]

Good grief where do I start, I have no idea why I am still here, (as in I'm still with the plank), actually I do, to be fair, I love him and to be a bit more mercenary I haven't experienced life without his input since I was 22 and he has always been able to keep a living wage coming in. So I have discovered (yeah, you know how) that he has been texting a woman, and I don't text men like that or even open myself up to being texted (how do all these mysterious/and saucy texts end up on his phone when he has never asked for them (me neither and I haven't received any yet)

So here I am now at 41 and wondering what to do, I feel my life is falling away- and I want to get back on track, there's other quite important things going on in my life at the mo, so I need to sort this one out.

Thanks for listening

Hey. Sorry to hear this has happened. I don't know what you should do but don't want you to go unanswered tonight. Does he know you know? Can you sleep on it until the wiser posters or someone with similar experience log on tomorrow?

Op-dont have any good advise but just wanted to say you are not alone. Dh was very pissed tonight and half confessed to some "kind of texting" with a work collegue but then back tracked when I challenged him on it.
In all honesty I think our marriage is too far gone as I am not really that bothered-in fact my exact reply to him was fill your boots if you are deluded enough to think any young woman would be interested in you!
Hope things work out better for you.

I think the fact that you are really bothered by this means that you and your husband do have a lot to sit down and talk about.

Tell him how you are feeling, and let him know that you don't want your relationship to slip away; but that this kind of behaviour is (understandably) causing you real upset.