If you knew that somebody disliked you child/ren intensly, you would completely cut them out wouldnt you?

[justhe1]

But what if that person was your sister?
What would you do then?

She sounds like a very nasty piece of work! Is she just nasty for the sake of it? I think that it would take all of you confornting her together if you were going to stand a chance of getting her to see sense.
I dont particularly like children, but i do not make negative comments around them, or make them feel unwanted.
I would most definately keep my children away from someone like this as they can only have a negative impact on the child.

i'd be inclined to call the police on someone who was being abusive and wouldn't leave my house... but i suppose it wouldn't be great for your nephew to be cut off from the more normal members of your family.

i wouldn't worry too much about your niece, she'll just grow up thinking aunt x is a total cow and not see her anymore when she reaches adulthood. with a bit of luck your sister's son will do likewise, hopefully without sustaining too much emotional damage. she sounds vile. i'd limit my contact with her as much as possible.

"As far as she is concerned , she is right, we are all wrong, other peoples kids are nasty sniveling spoint little bastards that need a good fucking hiding...her words. " But she is talking about herself, isn't she - that description applies to her - she sounds very immature.

Not to mention highly narcissistic with a few other personality disorders thrown into the pot. Ugh.

I suppose with someone like this it is best to stay calm and not get drawn into any kind of emotional reaction or drama. Maybe just treat her as you would a child. She is being a tad foolish though, because if she is as emotionally manipulative and unpleasant as you say and using verbal aggression, she could find herself on the wrong side of social services one day. After all, emotional abuse IS abuse and 9 year old children need protecting from this.

Just saying.

Consensus seems to be to continue as i am but not to cut off contact becuase i need to be connected to my little lovely nephew.
I keep my child away from her completely..not a problem, always done it so will continue.
my other sister really needs to grow a pair and cut off, avoid going to my mums with dn when nasty sister is there...she will get to this at some point as she is begining to seath inwardly i think.

My sister will be a very lonely, very bitter, very angry individual any time soon. He own doing entirely.

I think your nephew will need you in the years to come. You will be his refuge, his safety net Your nasty sister will reap her own rewards though. Concentrate on being a fantastic Auntie.

I think it's pretty simple. You don't like either her or her behaviour.

No need to dress it up with what is reasonable in dealings with children - you simply don't like her any more.

If you see it in those terms, it becomes much easier to decide whether to put up with her (in the interests of family connectedness - my likeliest option if it were me), or whether (and how much) to distance yourself.

Well,I think a very heavy baseball bat could 'sort the fuck' out of your sister.Think of your DN and call SS.She sounds like a complete cunt.

Just out of interest, when your sister says she 'hates children' has anyone pointed out that the feeling is probably entirely mutual?