Had enough

[hadenoughifthis]

I want to leave my husband. He is making my life miserable.

I know he won't leave the family home.

I can't just up and leave with 2 children to care for.

I will go and see a solicitor next week to get things moving.

My grounds will be "unreasonable behaviour". There is a lot of emotional abuse.

He is going to hit the roof when he gets a letter from a solicitor.

Just need to talk really.

The final straw was today when (after months of asking) he will not commit to minding out 2 year old for a single day. He won't just say yes or no (so that I could have made other plans) he just leaves me hanging. Bastard.

He's abusive, so you give him what you feel able to. Can you sit down and draw up an access plan with him? You haven't painted a picture I'd a reasonable man, hence cestlavies advice.

You 'don't want' benefits/hostels etc,?then you fund it yourself. Take control of your life and move in towards what you want, using what resources you have

As you say, he's clever and done nothing wrong in eyes of the law. Don't hold out for the family home to be handed over to you.

You have the right because your husband is not being a decent husband or father. Your children have a right to a happy home.

If you have had enough, then people are telling you what you can do.

Thanks all. I'm overwhelmed. It's hard to be the strong independent woman I know I am when I'm worn down, flat, tired, confused, upset, angry and many other things.

The children are happy. We did have a happier period not long ago when I thought we were making progress and I asked DS1 whether he had noticed things were better and he said he hadn't really noticed any change better or worse. I think they are both so secure that it wouldn't even enter DS1's mind that we would break up

I suppose I just kept hoping (I still do) that we could work it out. I didn't want to be just another broken home.

Gaaa, I'm crying now. I've held it together all day and now it's too much.

Other people don't matter, really. If you break up it could be for thebst, staying together unhappily helps no one, least of all your children.

Broken home? Well it's already one of those by the sound if it. Being a lone parent doing your own thing isn't a broken home...... An emotionally abusive, un interested husband DOES make it a broken home though.

You have the right to take care of your own needs and set limits on what you will put up with from this man because he is abusive. Abusive men lose the right to have their wishes indulged.

Sorry to be harsh but your home is already broken m'dear (((hugs)))