Do the grandparents smack your kids?

[bourneville]

I was really shocked when a friend of mine told me that all four grandparents (of her ds!) smack her ds. My mum and a couple of my friends that I spoke to about it were also shocked. To my mind, the grandparents? role is to spoil their grandkids (unless they play a major role in child care) and I would be horrified if my parents smacked my dd, even if I smacked her myself (which I don?t, but this isn?t meant to be a debate about smacking as of itself). I wondered at first if I was shocked about it because I?m anti smacking generally, but a friend of mine who agrees with the odd smack was equally shocked at the idea of her parents smacking any future kids of hers (she has none yet) and said it doesn't even enter her parents' minds to (they already have 1 grandkid).

What are all your experiences & views, and advice for my friend?

sansouci..how is your son?????

He's okay, Moondog. Not making the progress initially anticipated but coming along. He hates his body cast, hates the hospital & takes it out on his mummy. Not that I mind... I don't blame him one bit. I seem to be unable to tear myself away from him but dd making scenes at school (had the headmistress call me on my mobile this afternoon to ask me to come & fetch her!) & saying "you don't love me."

my mum would never ever touch a hair on my dds head, my boyfriends parents def would though, they smack their other grandchild ( who lives with them) and im sure if i allowed my dd to stay there they would smack her, which is why i never intend to leave her there, i would go absolutly mental, they would regret it