With my "mother" it presented as extreme black and white thinking. Putting people on a pedestal, then demonising them when they inevitably fell short in some way. Ie being human!
Conflict. For example; if a shop assistant had committed even the most minor misdemeanor, or something had gone wrong, through no one's fault...she would expect the ENTIRE family to boycott the shop, and if you didn't you were "disloyal" and then demonised. Often sent for "trial" at one of her kangaroo courts where she attempted to get others on her "side" against you.
lies, even incomprehensible petty stuff. Saying one thing to one person and then completely changing it, even though the first person was listening to the updated version of the story, and being completely unaware of doing it.
Oh and the illness...and the expectation of those around her to dance attention and be at permanent beck and call...including the GP and all the surgery staff. I think she drove them round the bend.
Promiscuity...she was essentially the "village bike" and did little to hide it. Side room in the pub anyone? Yuk.
She only appeared to be capable of liking one person at a time.
All in all. A nightmare. I have nothing whatever to do with her.
I really hope your situation is a million miles away. All PD's are on a scale though. I think "mother" is really rather bad. She spent time as an in patient at the local psyche hospital, had ect etc. :(
The point I wanted to make was that you won't be the only person who has noticed. Hope I haven't scared you, but hopefully put your mind at rest that it isn't a bad PD.