Ok so I have finally told DH tonight that I am not prepared to transfer and remortgage home until he has given up cannabis for good and he controls his moodswingss. He tells me he is very dissapointed in. me, he feels very insecure, he will now put aside half his income into his own account - I will have to meet mortgage costs. He loves me very much and always will and if I ever try to separate from him I will have to get an injunction. Now I feel awful he seemed genuinely done in. Am I such a cow to refuse to transfer property into joint names based on his past behaviour not alllowing for the fact that he has not smoked cannabis for 6 days and not had a verbal go since 6.15 this morning. WHen i type this i see clearly that he is a pillock and I was right but I would appeciate some back up or indeed the opposite. He has now gone out to clear his hand which he says may take him to his friends house where he willl have a joint but he not sure he confused.