ok, i have had a few problems with dh and posted about them on here... He's not violent, hasnt cheated but is an inherently selfish lazy man, drinks too much/often and never admits he is in the wrong...
I have been trying to sort our dining room/my study (im supposed to work from home) for dsd (16) to move in to do 6th form here... Thats been a nightmare, she applied months too late but got offered a place doing random a levels but today her gcse results aren't good enough and dh is pretty pissed off with her and has been saying she was lazy etc... I have been trying to be positive and jut emphasising that she needs to call them today/tomorrow as they may be able to do something...
Anyway, i had arrranged to pick up a large wardrobe through freecycle today so i went and got it with ds(12) and dd(21 month) and once dd was asleep i said i needed to bring it in so i had a clear car for tomorrow and dh started moaning and whinging at me saying i never relax to which i said i dont have time and that i jjust needed to bring this in ... He stayed sat on the sofa and saw me struggle so after bringing in 2 of the 10-12 ft pieces i asked him to help, he huffed and puffed and came out and then started moaning at me doing so much to which i am afraid i replied by repeating what he had said about dsd, namely that perhaps dsd had relaxed too much instead of studying!
He slammed down the wardrobe bit and stormed off saying i was a complete bitch! I brought the rest in and then went to see him and basically he ranted at me saying i was out of order and a complete bitch..
I had had enough so i told him we were over and he can piss off and find somewhere else to live and i went upstairs
He carried on shouting and telling me i was a bitch and that i obviously didnt like dsd which is total crap so i started packing his bags and took them downstairs
He brought them back up and threw them across the room and demanded i unpack them, saying why should he leave etc etc
I have to admit i did unpack them and then went down to apologise for the comment about dsd , he jept on saying i was a bitch etc and that if i want he will leave but in 2-3 weeks when he can sort somewhere to live
I'm torn.... I don't want to live like this but not not sure if i want him to leave....
The added complication is that he is due to transfer my much needed housekeeping tomorrow and now i am not sure if he will so won't be able to pay rent/gas/electric/childcare etc! What do i do??