What I mean is, should (s)he be everything; your 'soulmate', your best friend, your lover, your partner in all, someone who 'gets' you, who you can talk to about anything etc. Or is it enough that you rub along ok, both love the kids, pay the bills together and are nice and kind to each other?
Sorry, spilling out the contents of my head after a mini-revelation tonight when i realised me and DH, after 15 years, have little in common, apart from being married to each other! I talk to my mum or friends about things which interest me, he often makes me feel stupid or dull on these topics, which interest me but not him. I am more intelligent than him (just being honest, I am) and we have little to say to each other except household/children/how was your day stuff. Is everyone's relationship like this after a while or am I missing something? I am not unhappy and not thinking about leaving, just wondered if my marriage is not that great and I didn't realise. Maybe best not to tell me actually...!