Apologies in advance if this is long, I fear it will be but I'll try to keep it short without drip feeding.
Been with DP for 6 years now, we have a 2 year old DD together. On the surface, things are great. Recently engaged, about to take over an already successful business which specializes in one of DP's passions - great, fantastic DD, nice home, nice car etc etc. Behind closed doors however... I am so bored. DP works hard, 2 jobs amounting to full time hours plus more most weeks, so understandably when he gets home he wants to just relax which is fine. The current routine most days is that he is out of the house from 9.30am - 7pm. He comes home, plays with DD/gets her ready for bed at 8pm. Then we both sit down for dinner together, usually in front of the TV. The only conversation being me moaning that we have already watched what he has put on again. Then we sit in silence eating, then I clear up, and he lies down on the couch so I move to the other one. He is engrossed in the TV, so I read a book, or MN go online. We can literally sit in the same room all night and not say a word to each other, other than to ask if the other would like a drink. And the worst thing is, we both seem contented to do that. We have done it for so long now that it just seems normal.
We have sex twice a month, if lucky. Used to be 2-3 times per week, and I have lost 6 stone in weight this past 18 months so you'd think we'd be at it like rabbits, but it's gone the opposite way.
We don't fight, only bicker about silly things now and again. We just don't seem to have much in common at all. There is nothing we can sit and talk passionately about any more. He never wants to go out, unless it is to sit in silence in the cinema for 3 hours. He isn't much of a socializer so I am usually left to do that alone, and not often enough.
But despite all of this, I love him, I really do. And when we go through a rare good patch - we are great together, bring out the best in each other. But we have lost our way so badly and I am so scared that we can't get it back because he seems to be quite happy the way things are, it is easy for him. I am more like a roommate who cooks, cleans, and raises his daughter for him.
And in the next few weeks, when everything is finalized for the new business, and he is out of the house for 13 hours a day 7 days a week to get it back to it's full potential.. I just don't see how we will have the energy or time to fix it. He is under a lot of stress this past month sorting it all out, the last thing he needs is me moaning about how boring our relationship has become.
I just feel so sad and empty right now. No idea what I want anybody to say. Thank you if you have made it to the end! x