I have just put the phone down on my mum (again)

[santaslittleunicorn]

This is too longwinded to go into, but I am ALWAYS in the wrong in our family (never any of my siblings)

I was trying to tell my mother some of the things that have happened in the last 2 years ( I had a fallout with brother/sister)from my perspective, and she says.... 'Listen unicorn you talk too much' ie I am not prepared to listen to your side of things!

No answer to that other than putting the phone down really.

They do my head in my family... I am better when I have no contact with them.

I know exactly how you feel

me too!

i have fallen out with my brother because he told huge lies to the rest of the family about DH and myself. I am gutted about it but dont know how to deal with it because he is having our boys over Xmas while DH and I work.

Families can be rotten, cant they?

I hate, hate, hate the way my mother has sided with everyone else ... surely a parent should try and be impartial/peacekeeper....??

She just seems to take whatever they say as true, and is just not prepared to listen to me at all.

Would it be worth writing to her to explain? At least you'd get your say?

Totally understand too.

writing to her may be an idea.. would be cathartic if nothing else.

Mother is 81 now, so who knows how long she has etc, but I don't think she will ever really change... she once called me a " bad temepered bitch"

(I probably am when I talk to her)

I think writing can help a lot, even if you never send it. I always think that it means you do get to say all the things you want and explain yourself when someone isn't giving you the chance, also to stop and read what you've written can help too.

If your mum is that old it might be worth it to clear the air a little perhaps?

I posted last year about all this and i wrote a letter stating the facts but still inviting them for xmas in our new house She write back saying some terrible things and the letter didn't achieve anything in fact she has been even worse since and took the 'how dare you write to me'stance rather than the olive branch it was supposed to be.But it is worth a go

I guess it depends on what you want to try and achieve from writing.

I can't change how she feels about me, and I s'pose that is all I really want.

I will never match up to my brother (goldenboy)and that blatant favouritism is what hurts most.

Maybe by writing I can sort things out in my head a bit more- but whether I should send it hmmm...
don't want to be accused of putting the nails in the coffin as it were.

Can't win whatever I do see!