Family squabbles

[Mog]

Just has an almighthy row with my mum and phoned my sister for support and realised again what a history there is to all these seemingly petty rows.
Anyone found any good books for trying to sort out these repeating family squabbles. Don't want to repeat the same pattern with my own dd.

Mog sorry to hear this, my family are the same but the petty squabbles have turned into something more serious now.

I just make sure I never act like my mum.

sometimes I can hear her words coming out of my mouth and it makes me cringe and get depressed

Try reading "They F**K you up" by Oliver James. It's about how to survive family life and even though you may not sort out your old family problems you may be lucky enough not to repeat the process with your own children. It's a bit heavy in bits but a good book for a debate.

Thanks everyone. I've got the Oliver James book and started it but found it a bit heavy but will try again as he did have some good stuff in the bits I read.
I'm the oldest and I think try to bring the family together and sort of end up getting hit in the crossfire. Think I need to step back for a bit and let them get on with it.

IKWYM about being the eldest, jeez I get scuds heading in my direction.

I found a book called 'Toxic parents' or it might be toxic families - very helpful a very long time ago...