Seeing 2 guys at once.... Confused and feeling bad...

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I have been seeing Mr E for 8months, we are not in a committed relationship (due to me not wanting to commit, not him). After seeing him for 3months I found out he had been seeing someone else. I continued to see him as felt he had not cheated on me due to the fact that I did not want to commit to him. Recently I have started to wonder if I love him. When we spend time together I fell like I may love him. But I also feel that he is not the right person for me. so that is why I do not want to commit. But I do like him as a person and do care about him. He has also implied that he loves me, but has not said it out right.

Recently I met Mr G. He seems like a nice guy and like he would treat me well. But its very early days, we have been on a few dates and slept together once.

Now I am feeling bad for Mr E, as I do not want to hurt him or lead him on, but I do like him. And I also want to see how things could go with Mr G.

I have never cheated on anyone before (although I have not said I am exclusive with either of them) so I am not sure if it is cheating or not?

But I have been cheated on, and would feel very bad if either of them found out and felt hurt by my actions.

I would just like to know what others think of this situation and get it off my chest really.

thanks fabbychic, thats quite mean, I just wanted advice as this is not something I would normally do, and I feel bad enough about it...

Anyway what gives you the right to be so judgemental, I am not sleeping with any tom, dick and harry, its 2 men, thank you

in the meantime sleeping with any Tom, Dick or Harry until you catch something or get pregnant.

Fabby - what gives you right to be such a nasty bastard? You seem to get a kick out of putting women down who come on here asking for genuine relationship advice, and it's shit. Sorry for the language but among a massive wealth of helpful and supportive posts on these boards, your bits of unpleasantness often stick right out.

oh ffs, fabby, what is up with you tonight ?

wind your fucking neck in

OP, fabby is on the vodka, I reckon

she is being a nob on other threads too

she does this every so often

there is a nice side in there somewhere, not tonight though

I don't drink! Ever.

maybe you should start, you daft bugger

Being someone who has entered non-committed relationships before, I would not want to know that you were sleeping with someone else, but I would want to know that this would be a possibility.
So I reckon that as long as they both know that you are not against the idea of sleeping with other people, but not say that you are currently doing it IYSWIM.
I like to know where I stand with people, but don't want to know details like when/who/where. Don't let Mr E think that this is going somewhere if it's not - it's not fair on him.

monoid - your right I think it will be better not to go into details about it all.