Found out something today which has made me feel really quite sad. I suspect I am being irrational/hormonal - hence there is no way I could have risked this in the bear pit of AIBU - but would appreciate opinions.
This all starts some years ago - a good friend of mine met a man, fell in love, eventually after a few years moved in together and got engaged. Man was separated from his 1st wife and living some way away from her and their DC. Eventually when friend was nudging him to set a date for wedding etc, and they were also in the process of buying a house, it all fell apart - and he ended up going back to the wife and DC. He said this was for their sake, and his wife was flaky, he wanted to be with my friend but the children came first.
So, friend was of course, devastated. A few years pass, over the course of which they intermittently keep in touch, start seeing each other again a few times but his family situation is always the same so it goes nowhere. By this time DC are late teens. He assures her it will be different when they get to university, but she doesn't believe him. The last time was about 8 years ago. Another year or so later, we heard though the grapevine that he was involved with a woman I knew of (very, very vaguely, same profession). Friend said good luck to her, she didnt think he would ever change, or get divorced. Never heard anything more about them.
Today out of the blue this woman's name came up in something at work. Which reminded me of the above, and just from idle curiosity I thought I wonder if she's still with him- and (why I dont know) I thought I'd google them. 5 minutes on the internet revealed they are now married, with a DC. So he did get divorced. Friend meanwhile is on her own, and has been since they split, I don't think she really ever got over him.
I've felt ever so down since I found out, I cant really explain why but it made me feel really sad. It feels a bit as though that should have been my friend's life, she should have been married (they had a v similar wedding to that I know my friend would have had), had DC. It seems ever so unfair - and I know life really isn't fair much of the time, but sometimes I really wish it was :(