my phone conked out a few months ago, so my dp gave me his old one. I hadn't even looked on it other than to load my numbers on. Bit bored earlier so i decided to go through and delete some old messages/sent messages.
this is where I discovered 5 texts "dear xxx dream girl etc... do you want to go out for dinner" , "loitering in London dream girl xxx" "dream girl all my love" dating back to 2007 the last ones from march the last time he was away working in London. (in fact all dating from times away from what I can gather) Ok, not that many texts, but he usually just phones rather than texts so i can surmise there was more contact other than that.
i am such a mug, the london trips always got extended, while i was alone taking care of the kids. he always said "oh it's awful here, etc etc, so much work to do" I am so naive and trusting, but why shouldn't I be.
absolutely seething right now and i feel physically sick. I don't really want to confide in anyone yet until it's sunk in. I know they don't actually mean he's done anything technically but I'd have to be a complete fool to think he hasn't.
that's it, I'm having an affair to make it even.
he's away again and will be back tomorrow. not sure how to deal with this yet.
I have considered phoning up "dream girl" as her name and number are there, logged on the phone, but maybe i should confront him first