I have been seeing someone for around 6 weeks. We met in a bar and he told me he was a police officer, I didn't believe him (because they ALWAYS say either fireman or police man when hoping to get laid IME) but he showed me his badge. Therefore I know he works in a "professional" career but I find him intimidating and I don't know why because he's never anything but nice to me. He's a very masculine bloke whereas my ex was very shy, quiet, cowardly etc and I'm wondering if this is why? The only other thing is that I've noticed he can be quite confrontational towards other men, one example was that we were in a pub, I went to the toilet and bumped into my ex on the way out who started whinging that when we were together I'd always refused to go in there etc etc and the man I was with came marching across, asked ex if there was a problem and was actually quite frightening. Ex backed off straight away so I know it wasn't just me. He never threatened him though.
I don't know, I really like him, I just can't quite put my finger on what it is about him that makes me a little on edge. Could it be that the problem is entirely me? It probably is, I just want to know how to get passed it because I enjoy being with him.