Love at first sight...do you believe in it?

[OscarLove]

I met my bf about a month ago in real life after talking to him on internet dating, and I can honestly say that from day 1, the first time I clapped eyes on him in person and we said our first hello's, I felt something very strong. I have never been in love before, depsite being in 3 previous relationships, until now :o

I am sure that I read somewhere that when you meet a stranger and feel an instant attraction it is because subconsciously they remind you of someone else (such as a family member or old friend).

No. Unless you are 13.

Love is about mutual respect and trust and other grown up factors.

I'm on the side of "lust" at first sight and timing. Was doing the internet dating thing for ever before I met my dp and boy was that a rollercoaster. Met him and thought "phew" he'll do! lol

Oh so mine must have been relief at 1st sight after tonnes of fuckwhits, plonkers, sexoholics, mysoginists and down right NUTTERS!

Totally believe in it but never experienced it

In general? A big fat NO but....and it's a tiny but...there is a little tiny part of me, holding on by the skin of my teeth, to the hope of it before it dies.

"I am sure that I read somewhere that when you meet a stranger and feel an instant attraction it is because subconsciously they remind you of someone else (such as a family member or old friend)"

DP and I are of different ethnic origins. He looks and sounds nothing like anyone I've ever known (his voice is way posher than mine!)

The lightening bolt is very very different to what I feel for him. He feels like coming home, even at first meeting. Something just clicked into place.

We met on the internet, so my mental picture of a car-mad forty-something year old was very different to what I actually got

I have felt this twice before, and I'm still not sure whether it was love or lust, but it did last a long time, alas not forever though :(

Unfortunately I need to feel that instant 'connection' when I meet a fella, however, that normally means that I overlook things like, sincerity and kindness and normal!!!! When the lust hits I see nothing else. I have recently started to approach with caution and go for a 'grower', it hasn't happened yet, but I'm still plugging away...

I met dh 13yrs ago. It was one of those, walking past each other down a corridor, slowing to a stop, staring, freezing, blushing type things they make into shit romcoms. We went out that same day and sat in a bar not talking, just looking at each other, mildly in shock. It was like I'd been sedated but my head was zooming along at a million miles an hour. 3 days of similar, strange, staring behaviour and not uttering a word to each other, dh blurted out 'I think I love you'. I think I said 'shit'. Honestly, I don't know what the bloody hell was going on and it wasn't lust as we didn't seem capable of moving our limbs, let alone using them on each other. After a few weeks we managed exchanging names and even brief conversation.

I love the very bones of the man. He's in London at the moment herding looters whilst trussed up like the terminator. I've never been away from him for this long and I feel quite lost.

Aww saul that's so lovely, makes me want to cry...

Strong attraction, lust, yes. Love - no. I think that grows with knowledge of each other. Which is not to say it won't from what you have - hope it continues as well as it started OP

That said, am very of saul all the same

I looked at dp for the first time and I knew that we were destined to be together. Which was a shame because his mate was more attractive and had a nicer personality by far