briefly Ive been married 8yrs n hes very short tempered with me. its as if I ws a big mistake but why did he let this marriage go on for so long. he says he toreates me for out daughters sake. he says hes only putting up with me untill she old enuf.
i had an arranged marriage with my consent. im asian. when we met I wasnt a virgin. but i told him that in our first conversation. he said he was ok with it. then his family changed after we married cuz they wanted a maid who wore headscarf and prayed etc. n he blames me. he cudnt exactly divorce a few months into the marriage as I did tell him that i work etc n I hadnt actually done anything wrong. so he moved out well his mum kicked him out - he gave up that town hse to his brother for FREE. he had to put me somewer so he bought that flat with credit cards for the deposit. and went into his own word - no friends no communication with me.
i thougt a child wud bring him out of it but he said that he wanted kids after he paid off his debts. i insisted n got pregnant. so we had to move again n we got into more debt. but his love by passed me on to his daughter. BUT he never helped me at all wen daughter was a baby. in fact he had to work away so he stayed there during the week. wen i moaned tht he wudnt help with daughter he said "you wanted to have her so you take care of her" so i did untill she cud talk and ask for daddy to do things with her.
wen i ws going thru post natal depression he did nothing. i had couselling cuz i thought it ws me. then wen i had no money he dint have any to give me. he said "if you want money go earn it yourself". i did. oh ye wen i started nagging him abt giving away his hse n getting into debt he said to me that "it ws his hse n he gave it to his family - who ws I to question him". so y the did he use my money to save his ass and retrain to get a job. i paid for his exams.
hes says awful nasty things like he cant stand me. he never loved me. i digust him. he doesnt take me out in public because hes ashamed of me. we never meet up with other ppl. he complains abt my weight - im only st9.5. he never askes why im crying. he never looks at me. he never hears me n i always have to repeat myself even then he'l never remember what i say.
no matter how I talk, dress or act he never compliments me or acknowledges me. guess Ive just answered my own question.