So, what if you are not married?

[tostaky]

I have been with DP for 7 years now, we have two DSs (3 and 1.5).
I have jeopardised my career to support his career (I am still working 4 days a week but I do everything around the house and the children and we were planning for me to stop working and have a third baby - obviosuly this wont happen)
So if I leave him (he is bullying me and I cannot stand it anymore), what will I get?

Anyone been in the same situation? Do we have the same rights as someone married?

Afaik you do not have the same rights as a married couple. You will get child maintenence but I think that's about it.

Child maintenance is all

No - you do not have the same rights as someone who is married. If the children continue to live with you then you can get child support (via the CSA if necessary). But you will not benefit from spousal maintenance, for example, to compensate for differences between your incomes. It can be complicated - especially with the family house - so best to talk to a solicitor.

Yep, just child maintenance.

why oh why did I say "no" a few years back.....!!!

You don't have the same rights as a married couple, but actually it depends with other stuff - you might be entitled to some of the house, if it was bought in joint names, you own some of the house, if you've done anything to add value to the house you could argue (legally) that you own some of the house.

So definitely talk to a solicitor.

see a solicitor, know exactly where you stand