So I divorced X because he was a maniuplative, unfaithful, misogynistic alcoholic (I know the last is a disease not a character flaw). My family have been pretty unsupportive and think I am being a demanding woman. Three brothers are also divorced and in each case their Xs have been branded as the villains. So I think I am seeing a pattern here. My older brothers seem to hate women in general and one of them has launched quite a few verbal attacks on me accusing me of poor mothering and that my kids will turn against me. When I think about it coolly, I can see that he is nuts and I ought to be able to box that up and get on with things but instead what I do is to stew over it. I know it's not healthy but it has got under my skin. My brothers live in another country so I don't have to see them much but the one who loathes me and what I stand for most, has just visited. I really want to cut them out of my lives completely but I am not one for huge rucks and I also have one elderly parent who lives nearby who can't cope with these sort of things. As the ony grandparent the DCs have left, I want them to have a relationship with the most reasonable of a dodgy bunch of relatives.
How do I let go of the injustice and just get on with my life. I sort of managed to do it with X to the point where we can have a civil relationship as far as our DC are concerned. It seems much harder with family. Any ideas gratefully considered 