Help please. I am in a long-term (28 years) relationship with my partner and the father of my DD (8). We have been together since I was a student. Before DD was born our relationship was OK - lots in common, similar outlook on life etc. Not perfect, but good and solid. Cracks started to appear when DD started school - he worked long hours in a demanding job whilst i stayed at home and worked part-time when I could. We stopped sharing a bed and having sex about 4 years ago. There is no affection, no empathy - he is totally indifferent to me. I feel that I have worked hard at our life together - I've done up the house single-handedly, I cook every night, I always look my best etc, but he pays me no compliments and does not say sorry when he upsets me. i have had counselling to deal with my anger and frustration, which has helped.
I have sort of mentally packed my bags now, and given up the relationship as a lost cause. However, last weekend, totally out of the blue, he decided that he wanted sex with me. There was no preamble, no flirting, he just sort of came out with it. I tried my best to enjoy it, and when it was over I felt used and humiliated.
I was not expecting to ever have sex with him again, and I had accepted this. I can't see our relationship going anywhere, but does having consensual sex put things in a different light? He is very difficult to talk too about intimate stuff. WWYD if you were me?