I mean mean, not pissed.
I'm in my 50s and I've been thinking about tackling my dad about this. He is in his 80s and I - we all - have just put up with his meanness and selfishness, accepting that that is just the way he is. But this idea about tackling him about it is gaining ground lately and won't go away.
I divorced when my kids were young and was financially shafted by my very wealthy husband (who was mean - quel surprise!) and as a result have struggled very much financially since. My siblings are financially comfortable but I have had years of struggling to make ends meet - really bad sometimes (often 
). The financial difficulties really cast a shadow over my children's chilodhood I now realise - I thought I had kept it hidden from them but sometimes it's in the air you breath.
Anyways, while this was going on, my dad has never offered a cent. My parents aren't wealthy but I am getting a sneaking suspicion there has been a lot more around than we all thought, squirrelled away by my tight dad over the years. My mum is mortified at his profligate spending on himself and has put a stop to some of it, saying that she doesn't want eg a very expensive extension (cosmetic, nothing to do with mobility needs etc) when both me and my brother, whose business has failed, are on our uppers. She was mortally embarrassed at his stonking great flat screen tv and brand new car every 2 years when me and bro were at that point particularly struggling. I have asked my dad only twice to lend me some money, in the £100s, for a vital bill (once to stop a CCJ) and he has loaned it but I have had to pay it back in instalments. If an instalment is late he is on the phone asking me to check up on it.
I instinctively don't look at other people's financial set-up, mainly because you have no idea what is really going on. But it is becoming more than clear that there is a lot sloshing about. And I just wonder why on earth a dad would let his children struggle when just a bit of help would go a long way. Aren't dads supposed to help their kids, even when they're adults? I mean help out a bit to get them through a tight time, show support, do what you can now and again. I know nearly for certain that the money he asked back from me in instalments he wouldn't have missed at all if he'd written it off - or, keep me steady here, actually gave it to me. I was hardly buying a flash hol or car.
the only thing he has ever given me of his own volition is a kettle (with a lecture about electricity wastage or whatever). A tiny thing has just happened - he gave me his ladder. I was pretty astonished at the time but, as he is so ancient, he has no need of a ladder. This was about 5 years ago but recently he needed some work done on his house and my bro, out of work, offered to do it. My dad asked me for 'his' ladder back. "you gave it to me dad!" I said. "Yes I did but it was for safekeeping" he said. He has just called me to say that he's sorry for the misunderstanding but he gave it to me to borrow and now he wants it back permanently because he needs it. "Do you need it regularly?" I said - thinking he could 'borrow' it when he needs it, whereas I need it pretty much all the time. Oh yes, very regularly he said. I very much doubt he does.
Petty, I know (and sorry for long post!). Do I talk to him about how tight he has been? What would I say?? 
. Interestingly, I don't feel bitter, just that this isn't right and why isn't anybody saying anything? Why has he been able to get away with this for so long (all our lives)? the radiators upstairs in our childhood home rusted up because he wouldn't let us put them on; and I wasn't allowed to sit in another room to read, knit, sew etc as it 'used too much electricity'. Our only option ws the telly in the living room practically in the dark with the regulation 25w lightbulbs.
I'm feeling a bit upset about this tbh. What kind of a dad is he?