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appearance

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lazyanna · 01/12/2005 22:59

How old is too young for a man to give up on his appearance? It feels as if he doesn't care about what he looks like these days, and I sort of feel he's insulting me - does that make sense?

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followthestarlover · 01/12/2005 23:01

never! i think they should always try and look presentable.

well, bar slobbing round at home! lol

Feistybird · 01/12/2005 23:04

gizza clue - how bad is he? and in what circumstances?

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lazyanna · 01/12/2005 23:06

32, not sure what you mean by circumstances, he's never been into designer labels, but when I tell him he looks a bit scruffy these days he doesn't seem to care

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MeerkatsUnite · 02/12/2005 06:49

Do you think he could actually be depressed?.

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lazyanna · 02/12/2005 11:58

no, not really

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alLIOluia · 02/12/2005 12:47

Just not interested in clothes, or actually smelly because hasn't bothered to wash?

Janos · 02/12/2005 13:04

What is the problem with his appearance, lazyanna?
Is he he just scruffy (lots of people are)or is it a question of personal hygiene? Has he put on/lost a lot of weight? When you say he's given up - given up on what exactly? Have you noticed a big difference in his appearance since you met? Not having a go, just trying to find out what the issue is here

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lazyanna · 02/12/2005 13:32

just doesn't seem bothered what people think he looks like - he doesn't pong or anything

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alLIOluia · 02/12/2005 13:51

Ah, well obviously I haven't seen the man, and he may well make me shriek with horror, but as someone who isn't very bothered about appearances either I can probably sympathise with him.

My guess is that it's a very personal thing, different strokes etc, and it's only a problem if you think it's a problem. Does that sound fair?

Janos · 02/12/2005 14:21

Are you upset by the fact that he doesn't seem bothered by what YOU think? Cos I can quite understand why that would be upsetting.

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lazyanna · 02/12/2005 15:28

I want to know why he doesn't feel the need to make an effort anymore, iyswim

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Janos · 02/12/2005 16:30

Has he always been like this or has he stopped making an effort recently?

I'm guessing that you feel he's not bothered what you think of him and I can see how that would be hurtful. Do you think he's just not bothered or is there something else going on? It might just mean that he feels relaxed around you, especially if you've been together a long time.

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lazyanna · 02/12/2005 16:52

It's just in the last year - As I said, he's never been a snappy dresser or anything, but he makes no effort at all.

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