Briefly, I have been happily married for 18 years. However, the last five years have been sexless due to illness (on my husband's part). There is a lot of cuddling, hand-holding and kissing, but that's it. He's not really capable of much more, and to be honest, for me, foreplay was always something to be got out of the way before the real business began. Therefore, no issues, and we still have a very loving and respectful relationship.
I love my husband, I really do, so I can't understand where this crush has come from unless its connected to the above-mentioned sex situation. I think about the object of my crush (henceforth oomc) constantly from the minute I wake up, and have to consciously keep myself busy to distract myself. I only see oomc once a week in the company of my husband at the moment, but this is likely to dwindle to even less. I have known him for roughly ten years, and always liked him, but nothing like this. Oomc is not aware of how I feel, and i would never do anything to disrupt his marriage or mine. The thought of betraying my husband makes me feel sick - nevertheless, I can't stop thinking about this man.
I feel really sad and pathetic, I lecture myself to grow up all the time, but it seems I'm not listening! I know there are no magic answers, I'm just hoping someone can either talk sense to me or maybe share their own experiences of how they rode out inappropriate feelings for someone else. 