If you are not sexually inhibited - why do you think that is?

[Itsalljustabitweird]

I was having a conversation with my Mother recently about parents being affectionate and how she had no physical affection as a child and how as an adult she has found intimacy hard and that she wishes she wasn't as inhibited as she is.

We were raised with lots of physical affection (though the upbringing was by no mean perfect emotionally), but I would say that I am quite inhibited sexually. I find sex a bit embarrassing I suppose and awkward.

So - do you think that the way you are raised can have an impact on how you deal with intimacy in later adult relationships?
Or - is it just personality and some people are more inhibited than others?

I would love for my children (when adults) to have a healthy relationship where sex was open and lovely and not awkward and where they are not inhibited I suppose.

Yeah, Toby - I have an over inflated sense of self worth too. But I don't think I'm very attractive - I just know how to pull people

I am also a teensy bit arrogant. But that's because I'm ace

"But I don't think I'm very attractive - I just know how to pull people"

That's it, that's it exactly. It's a mixture of acute interest and complete attention, and if someone doesn't respond in kind then my interest switches off instantly.

I do think that there is a link between neediness in women and a lack of attention from their Father's it is true of me and of some other women I know very well. I have to say for the most part I am uninhibited sexually but agree with other posters that emotional intimacy has sometimes been a problem. Some of my most explosive sexual pairings have been with people that I have been emotionally distant with. I have often found combining the uninhibited me with the in love me very problematic... not sure what that is about to be honest. I do think it is a bit sad but it is certainly true.

I have tried almost everything sexually speaking, feel ok about the vast number of people I have been involved with. I am not particularly attractive I guess but I have always always been able to pull - I love the pursuit and sometimes kick them to the kerb when they become too clingy.

I know how to pull people too - without sounding arrogant, sometimes it is so easy it just makes me disrespect the person if there is no challenge [arrogant bitch emoticon]

All that said I have a happy monogamous relationship with someone who I really adore and am adored by so it can't be all bad eh?

Exactly, colditz - if someone isn't interested, neither am I.

I'm not inhibited sexually. I'm completely fine with emotional intimacy. However, I have a think about physical contact with people I'm not very close to. I hate hugging work colleagues, and seeing reluctant little children being made to "give auntie a kiss" makes me want to physically hit people because I'm so outraged on their behalf!

My relationship with my mother is very affectionate - but like me she's not a stranger hugger. I like my father but have not been particularly close to him since my parents separated when I was a child.