I was looking for any info on the Internet to help me with the confused emotions I am feeling and discovered there are fellow MN who may be able to help!
I have been estranged from my parents for nearly 2 years - when my marriage ended, they struggled with the loss of my exH from their lives and some pretty dreadful things were said by both sides.
I had hoped that over time, the damage would heal, but they have maintained regular contact with my exH, and his new partner - which has made things more difficult.
My exH considers his relationship with them to be validation of his continued behaviour towards me - he is very controlling and demands things are done his way; when I do not agree, he brings them into the discussion "....well, your Mum says...."
There have been some very hurtful moments over the last couple of years - I discovered my sister was pregnant for a third time (after losing her second child a few days after birth) from my exH - my sister had told my DD, and asked her to surprise menu telling me - instead, exH told me himself when he knew it would rattle me.
My biggest guilt is that I am no longer I'n contact with my elderly grandmother - she is cared for by my parents, and is totally bewildered by the whole situation. I realise I may never see her again, and any changes to her health are likely to be used by exH to get at me :-(
Any thoughts, help or advice from people in similar situations would help, please!?