A bit of a back story, Dh and split 2 years ago due to constant rows over money, his insecurities and ds1 (another story) not dh's son. We both needed a break. We had money issues, DH buried his head, we got into arrears with things and it was all my fault apparently! We where going through the diagnosis of ds3's autism and ds1 was causing problems. It all got too much for me as Dh would just lash out, not violent, but verbally, it was constant arguments and left him with ds2 & 3. My mum helped me get a rented house. At the time I was a mess but knew I wanted things to work. We worked though things and I moved home after 6 months.
Things have been good we have sorted our money problems and have been doing well since, until about 3 weeks ago. Dh has turned back to before I left, everything and anything accusing me of the most stupid things, bringing things up from years and years ago. He goes out at any opportunity, barely talks goes around slamming doors.
I can't go through this again, it is not fair and the boys or me. What do I do? Dh wont listen to anything I say, he just says I am 'head working him' so talking to him is not an option.