***** MOTHER-IN-LAW ******

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Can you help me? I know that a lot of you have an, ahem, uneasy relationship with your in-laws. My mum has the in-laws from Hell and thinks that she is alone in this. It really gets to her. I have said she would be surprised how many truly awful mother-in-laws there are out there!

Can I please have your most awful mother-in-law examples to I can print out this thread and show my mum that evil in laws exist all over! I really feel it will help her to know that other people have in-law hell and how they manage to rise above it.

When i married my first husband my MIL wouldnt come in the registry office but went to the pub instead.

Then during the speeches she was very drunk and tried to take the microphone off the best man and tell everyone that her son was an arsehole and she couldnt believe he was marrying me!!

I ended up crying in the toilets at this point.

Someone thankfully took her home but a few hours later at the night bit she came back, kept going up to the video man and putting the V,s at him, trying to kick the pile of presents over and the worst was, i was kneeling down talking to my dad and she WALKED ALL OVER THE TRAIN OF MY DRESS NOT ONCE BUT TWICE!!!!!!!.

She was a horrible horrible woman and im well shot of her.

My MIL was too busy to take me to hospital when I had to have ds 6 weeks early, she couldn't come to his christening cos she had fishing match, she never came to see us when we were living in Scotland but can manage to go to france at the drop of a hat. I could go on but it would take too long!

Mine was asked by Richard and Judy to go on as the Worst Mother in Law in the UK. Therefore , I win.

She:

tried to cancel my wedding photographer in favour of a friend (a gardener with a camera)

Sent FIL round when Dh was out night before to cancel my wedding

Walked out before the meal by faking a huge menopausal fainting fit (faked... menopause 10 years ago after hystorectomy) then made a grand reappearance during speeches

Wouldn't talk to us for 6 months coz I wouldn't take ds2 (aged A DAY) to a christening do in a smokypub with her (she needed a lift- wasn't arsed about seeing the baby)

Spent all the money that dh and BIL got in birthdays etc all through their lives on a boob job.

Told all dh's family that I am evil.

Insisted on seeing ds1's birth cert before acknowledging as her grandson

Phoned DH AFTER A SUICIDE ATTEMPT WHEN HE HAD DEPRESSION A YEAR OR SO AGO to say 'You got no right to do that, it's me you should feel sympathy for, I've got so many problems.....'

Gave us £2K receipt off wedding bill for a wedding gift. Phoned 2 years later to say as we didnt spend it on a house (which actually we did) she wanted it back. Now. Despite Dh being unemployed. She didn't get.

DH, I and the kids (3 boys under 6) got stranded near her house last month after a gas leak, 50 miles from home and unable to get to our car which was in the danger zone. It was 11pm but we couldn't go to hers because of 'lack of notice'.

When FIL left her my Dad spent hours comforting her and being damned lovely, then she phoned my DH to ask him to stop that 'fat ugly stupid man' from speaking to her again. Dad was with us the whole time, he was lovely for Dad.

Hasn't acknowledged DS since he was dx with AS in April

That enough?

I have to FORCE DH to talk to her these days, even FIL ran away last Christmas. She has a mortgage now with my 30 yr old BIL who isn't allowed (??? I know what i'd say to that) to date anyone in case it gets 'too serious'.

Yep. PPF wins!

PPF please,please excuse what I am about to say

F~*k. Me.

My MIL arrived for her first ever visit to our flat and immediately got very angry because she wasn't allowed to smoke in the house.

Saw it as a gesture of hostility from nasty DIL. Simply couldn't get her head round the idea that some people really genuinely don't allow smoking in their house, especially with a 6 month old baby in the place, and refused to notice that no-one else was allowed to smoke there either, including my brother.

But I guess that pales into insignificance besides PPF!

Crikey PPf - think you win hands down

Not my MIL but a friends refused to go to her son & DIL's wedding as she had nothing to wear, son said he'd buy her an outfit - she had to find one and he'd give her the money. The only thing she could find taht she liked cost £2000

Ha1 I knew she was trhe worst!

(One of sister's MILs is clinically insane though and comes close)

flippin eck peachy, more like mother "outlaw" than in!!!

I like that one Jenk , she now has a new name!!!

Ok PPF my MIL seems like a saint compared to yours, you win!!

Some of these examples aren't MIL behaviour they're just plain outright nutters.

My MIL told me on my wedding day that she was going to go out of her way to be the worst MIL in the world - she's not as bad as some I've seen on here but she has a damned good try. I excuse her on account that she's as mad as a snake.

We took her on a canal holiday with us once and I spent the whole week running myself ragged after her (and doing most of the steering) until the day she popped up through the hatch and asked if she could make lunch for us. Well, of course we said yes but when we moored up to eat there were two plates of food (for dh and mil) and she said to me, "I didn't know what you wanted so I didn't bother".

Lying flat out in bed hours after a 24 hour labour and emergency caesarean, she turns up at the same time as my mother and when they midwives asked them to limit their time seeing us MIL said to me "It's OK, no-one in their right mind would be interested in seeing how you are anyway".

On telling her we were thinking of getting some photos taken of dd she said "I wouldn't bother, dear, she's not that attractive after all".

She calls herself "Mummy" and me "Nannie" to my daughter, in the hope that dd will call her Mummy by mistake.

She once helped dd make a card, and MIL had written inside for her "With lots of love to Daddy from Mini-WWB". When she gave it to us she said that she'd asked Nanny to write something else, but Nanny hadn't written it for her. When I asked what, she said that she'd asked my MIL to write "Mummy and Daddy". She'd then looked at the card, couldn't see the word Mummy, asked MIL to put it in, and MIL had refused point-blank to do so because "It's only Mummy, after all".

When dd was 5 weeks old, feeding for England and crying 95% of the time: "That baby needs a smack, and if she plays up for me like she plays up for you, she'll get one".

On toys: "Little girls shouldn't be given trains and cranes to play with; you'll make her gay".

On me: "But of course you haven't made a proper career out of having children like I did; you're not a proper mother until you've got two".

Honestly, I would seriously not have anything to do with people like this.

There's one thing having a slightly tense relationship with a MIL, because let's face it, it is a difficult one; but it's quite another having someone in your life who is out and out abusive and tries to influence your children to disrespect you. Why on earth should anyone put up with that? It's simply not reasonable.

I have to say, bringing the kids into it is just TOO low. At least my MIL just blanks Sam, doesn't disrespect me to him. There was one incident when she lied and said FIL had hit her when they were splitting, but I put that down to her being broken hearted.

I know we should ditch the bitch. Dh would, happliy, especially now he could maintain a relationsip with his dad (who has an amazing fiancee). I can't do it though. I keep thinking how much she must love her boys, based on how I feel about mine, and give in. I make him phone her, it t akes him three days to get the strength up first.

She DID have it hard though; her Mum abandoned her and her sister before she was 5, and her Dad put her into a kids home for a year before coming back to get her. Then she had to skivvy for him until she amrried. She is very much a thwarted woman, would have loved to be a high power business woman. Did actually have her own very successful business, but her fear of driving meant it outgrew her.

But then again, FIL's Mum also abandoned him and he was in an orphanage until one of the staff took him home to their Mum, and he's lovely.

I put up with my MIL because she is dh's mother and dd's grandmother, she loves both of them and they both love her. I have never said a word against her to either her or my dh (I do all my moaning here ) and I never will, because the minute I do I will be the big bad DIL ... this way whenever things get nasty it's her doing not mine.

my mil has called social services to complain about me countless times - you name it, she has accused me of it. she has also called the police and tried to get our local mp to support her. she has taken my oldest son to the doctors countless times to make him tell lies about things i am supposed to be doing to him (doctor and ss have now told her to stop it and go away). she tells my oldest son she is his real mum because i went out to work when he was a baby and she looked after him. she told him i tried to have his dad put in prison. she told me that domestic violence should be kept between the couple and i am a terrible person for taking her son to court. when i told her we were about to be evicted from our flat because he couldnt be bothered to walk round the corner to pay the bill she told me i should have done it and was expecting too much of him (he was at home full time, i would have had to get a taxi home in my lunch hour and then back to work - the rent office was the next street to our flat). she refused to have ds2 in her house. she managed to push her way past me into my house just after ds2 was born and i was ill so she could steal a phone. when police went round to get my phone back she tried to have me arrested for assaulting her. she constantly lies, and is very bad at it. im sure i'll think of more given time

Must admit my mil does not abuse me or treat me badly directly she just manipulates everything. Some of my fave behaviours though:

made my dh pay for any of his dad's things he wanted when he died, borrowed $2000 and gave us fil's childhood stamp collection to repay debt, invited bingo people we had never met to our wedding because they didn't get out much, scratches nether regions constantly,
uses kitchen tea towel to wipe her sweaty face and armpits and then uses it to wipe dishes,
drinks like a fish and chain smokes,
had a threesome with two really young blokes when travelling with a friend, sleeps around since fil died and now has genital warts, hits my kids and yells at them when they are being naughty when I am there, no birthday or christmas presents for my kids, charged my dh $10 to take up the legs of his pants

have read these posts with my jaw on the floor omg what you women will put up with is incredible!!
to the post that said her MIL hits her kids - that is totally unacceptable and i would ban her from my life is she touched my kids, its not up to her to decide disapline for your kids! cheeky bag!

Mine is trying to kill me with kindness.
It may sound nice and it is to start but trust me its not. I'll tell her no but she doesn't listen....in fact she does the ohhhh poor me act, I was only trying to help......so dh says she's not doing any harm but I know she's really the devil reincarnate she just does it manipulatively.

One thing I will never forget is when we moved house and she helped of course... the new neighbour came to me the next day introduced herself and told me my mil had gone round on the moving day and told her about the trouble we had conceiving and my postnatal depression and could she(the neighbour) keep an eye on me. I was highly embarassed as it had been a couple of years since the depression and the thought of mil telling all unsundry about my reproductive anatomy

She'll ring up ask if we would like something she's seen (very kind of her) such as a toilet seat??? crimbo garland I say no she doesn't listen comes round with it anyway and in the case of the toilet seat got very upset with a huge display of throwing it in the bin outside (there was nothing wrong with ours) of course then everyone looks at me for upsetting her and I end up in the doghouse

I say no very diplomatically thanking her for her kindness and all that well except last time I told her to go and jump as had had enough.

I found this whilst browsing.

SLCC we must have the same MIL, mine kills with kindness altho I get along with her but we once got a toilet seat, a lovely ocean one for the kids - it was bloody awful! Don't think I could put up with most of tehse MILs!

actually too annoyed with my MIL right now to post
but last night she phoned and ranted at my dh and me for four hours because I had sent her a text to arrange a visit and not phoned her
she threatened in all seriousness that if carried on this type of unreasonable behaviour we would never see her again
we have a two week old new born btw
this did make me smile though - she said to me:
you know I dont like texts!
HC - er no I didn't know that, you never told me
Mad witch MIL - well I told X! (X being my sister in law)
er WTF?? the logic train clearly hasn't stopped there for a long while.
I did tell her that if my dd1 (2.5) behaved like she did I would send her to sit at the bottom of the stairs for a LONG time.