On holiday with H and dc and his parents. A few things happened that quite upset me but he thinks I am being unreasonable.
On the fourth day I hurt myself quite badly, have come back and have whiplash and a ripped shoulder muscle. It was very painful. Neither he or his parents were at all concerned about it and in fact acted like I was making a massive, attention seeking fuss, were very obstructive about me going to the doctors as it would be a PITA where we were on holiday. I don't speak the language there, not familiar with local structures etc, his parents are though. In the end I didnt go but was in an awful lot of pain.
Another family member came to visit while we were there and I was chatty to her with no issues, liked her etc. Towards the end of the visit I became engrossed in a game with dc, they were all talking and it all seemed fine. After she left, he shouted at me in front of his parents and said I had been extremely rude to this family member and embarassed him. I just wasnt and dont believe I did. He was aggressive and unpleasant and again his parents said nothing.
Finally on the last day I, in passing said that I wanted to pick up some sweets for ds's classmates, cue massive rant, again in front of his parents about there not being room in the suitcase and "you neednt fucking think I am going to be carrying all your carrier bags and lugging all that extra weight about!" He also had a big moan about my washbag and what the a PITA it was to pack, too bulky apparently, in the end I said "oh be quiet" at which he started shouting about how I had had my holiday out of him (he paid, I dont work am SAHM) and now was back to my usual ungrateful self, all again in front of his parents, again they said nothing. In the end he went out with his parents on the last night got extremely drunk and I did all the packing, all the organisation and there were no carrier bags and no problems, as usual as I am very organised.
I feel as though I was bullied from beginning to end of the holiday and he treated me like c*ap basically. We have had issues in the past but I have never felt to uncared for and bullied in my life, this from someone who was bullied for years at school. When I told him how much the paying for the holiday comment upset me he told me I shouldnt have told him to "be quiet" in front of his parents. I really despise them too for not intervening as if any of my dc behaved like that to a guest I would really be unhappy about it and say so.
I want to end this relationship. I think he is a bully and I saw his real true colours while we were away. Lots more has gone on before but not quite as sustained as this.
Sorry for the length.