I had a conversation that disturbed me somewhat with dp the other night. I keep a diary, have done since 11 yrs old, and there is tons of it, I have not held back in my diary!! Recently I was talking to dp and a friend about my diary and how I was starting to think about what would happen if i died & people of course read it. I have been meaning for example for ages to get a locked filing cabinet (having dd gave me that idea, the thought of her when older getting her hands on it but I am also worrying even about dying in old age & who would read it. I really do go into ridiculous detail about both my life and other people's lives in my diary and it was starting to haunt me. What should I do about this? I know I can include it in my will but how could that control someone just randomly going through my stuff - or is no one allowed to do that until the will is checked?
Back to dp though, he was naturally concerned in the same way as I was (obviously he knows what sort of stuff'll be in there about him. ) but he took it one step further saying that he thinks it is really unfair to keep a diary and self indulgent etc etc because anyone could read it, read stuff about other people, etc. He obviously feels very insecure about what could be in there! But it felt like he was really trying to make me feel bad for writing a diary, but there is no way I am going to stop (told him so) or burn any of it (that thought fills me with ), because it is a lifeline for me.
Anyway the subject was closed with us and I don't think it's going to be an issue any more cos i wasn't budging (not that he was asking me to stop or burn it) but it did leave me feeling rather uncomfortable, esp as all those thoughts had already entered my head. Anyone any thoughts or opinions on this ? It had never occurred to me that it might be an issue for somebody else, I always figured it was my private business & that I would be the one to suffer if anyone read any of it! My dp is right that that is not so.