I don't know if this will make any sense, but rubbish at this man lark and need some perspective!
I've known a guy for about 8 months, we "met" on a dating site but only managed to meet up in person for the first time last month. He is really easy to chat with, great company, but I text him after our meeting saying that I'd love to see him again as a friend but nothing more. I didn't feel any chemistry, and that's been my barometer up till now.
We met again yesterday, just for a walk, and we spent a couple of hours together, chatting and laughing....it was lovely. Pretty early on I realised both of us were finding excuses to touch each other, helping each other along the steep bits etc and there were definately sparks. The thing is, I didn't immediately fancy him, he's just not the usual "type" I am attracted to, even though he is handsome! Yesterday I found myself really warming to him, you know when you get those butterflies in your tummy and you want to touch someone for no reason?!
We kissed yesterday and though it was lovely I panicked cos I love being independent and single and wasn't expecting anything to happen. He's not looking for a big relationship either which is great but how do I know if I'm really attracted to him or just feeling a bit horny? Does it even matter? I can't remember what it's all meant to feel like!
Other things I am wondering about is that he has hinted he's not very experienced sexually which doesn't bother me, but he's very cautious and careful ny nature, whereas I'm pretty impulsive. Can opposite personalities get on well do you think?
Has anyone fallen for someone slowly - ie. not being immediately attracted to them but finding themselves really liking them after a while?
I just need to relax don't I? I'm so used to dating guys and ripping their clothes off them pretty fast that I'm kind of thrown here!
Reading this back, I sound like a teenager, honestly, I've been married twice and you'd think I'd have half a clue...