What do you think of this as an excuse

[romi]

me and dh suspect that dh dad is having an affair with dh stepbrothers girlfriend.

Last week they took her baby to A&E as he had a temperature, they were gone for four hours.

Nothing strange in that you might think but when you hear their version of events you might think differently.

"they didnt know what was causing X,s temperature so they gave him antibiotics to bring it down, then they told us to strip him of all his clothes and walk him around the hospital in the cold"

Now i dont think this is right because my children have been to A&E with temperatures and they have given them pessaries straightaway and if the temperature is high kept them in overnight as a precaution.

I cant imagine a paediatrician telling any parent to walk their 13month baby outside with nothing on in november-what do you think?

By the way our assumption of the affair isnt based on this one incident its a few.

ds3 had a kidney infection which they thought was meningitis. as soon as they saw him they gave him antibiotics, told us to strip him off and stood us infront of a fan. so may not be that far fetched. hospital may not have been able to find a fan? what cousl they get up to whe they have a baby with them anyway?

what could they get up to

They were probably advised to walk babt around hospital corridors as they are cooler than the wards.

"they didnt know what was causing X,s temperature so they gave him antibiotics to bring it down, then they told us to strip him of all his clothes and walk him around the hospital in the cold"

That said round the hospital in the cold, not outside in the cold.

If there were no other instances to make you suspicious, you would accept it at face value and not question it at all.

The reasons they gave for being gone so long don't seem far fetched to me at all, having had similar happen with my own.

What are the other suspicious instances?

If that is you only reason for suspecting, it's pretty shaky, IMO

the hospital might easily have given an antipyretic with the antibiotics. It is fairly standard practice to undress a child with a temperature, and whilst I doubt that they were told to take the child outside, that point could have been misunderstood somewhere along the line.

I'd leave well alone if I were you.

they are always disappearing together and she has a few freinds on the estate that she could have left her baby with.

She is 19, FIL is 51 and is known for being a womaniser, his current girlfreind hardly speaks to him and is never in, the SIL is always sat close to him with her arm around him,ruffling his hair, she even answers his mobile phone when DH phones.

On the night in question, DH stepbrother was on his playstation-as usual, FIL girlfriend had gone drinking so why not take her own boyfriend?

Then the next night they disappeared for 2 hours to pick up a prescription from the doctors, SIL is at FIL,s house from 9am to 10pm every day, she minds the children while FIL girlfriend goes out all the time, i just wondered if it could be right what she said.

I have been told to strip my ds to his nappy and walk him around somewhere cool before, have also been at a and e for up to 5 hours, so story isn't far fetched at all.

romi - so presumably there are witnesses to the baby having a temperature, etc? And you think that a worried-sick Mum, with a baby with a temperature and presumably still ill even if the A&E said it wasn't serious, would stop off and take advantage with a bit of nookie?
Does 2 plus 2 often add up to 196 in your family - or have you got other 'evidence'?

agree with tissy, leave well alone. valid question about why her boyfriend didnt take her - but i dont think i would blame her for that

they said to take the baby outside the hospital in the cold.

As for leaving well alone, i couldnt care less what FIL gets up to TBH, its DH who wants to know as he absolutely hates his dads girlfriend who isnt a nice woman and has said he will be glad for his dad if he is seeing his 19yr old daughter in law.

Also DH stepbrother couldnt care less about his girlfriend, he never gives her any money and doesnt even look at his own son.

I would be v interested to know why Steb-B didn't take his own baby to A&E. If he can't be bothered, maybe he can't be bothered to worry about what his gf is up to, either.

Blu your post is a bit harsh i think, i didnt come on here to be attacked, i just wanted an opinion on something that i wasnt sure of

well DD was in A&E on friday .. stripped off to cool down .. given calpol and nurofen and IV antibiotics and admitted

If you don't have any other "evidence" then I would say you were barking up the wrong tree

dont think blu is attacking you romi, she has a good point about why he didnt take his own baby. tbh sounds like it wouldnt be a bad thing if youre suspicions were true anyway. i would still leave them to it tho

dont think blu is attacking you romi, she has a good point about why he didnt take his own baby. tbh sounds like it wouldnt be a bad thing if youre suspicions were true anyway. i would still leave them to it tho

"Does 2 and 2 often add up to 196 in your family" was what i was referring to as being a bit harsh

I think its just that regular posters know Blu is one of our most empathetic posters .. and telling her she's being harsh is kind of like attacking a bunny rabbit ... she isn't and she never would be .. I thought it was funny personally

well i think its a little strange. but then it wouldnt surprise me either!

but you have said this isn't the only thing which has lead you to this conclusion.

i think the only thing you can do is not be complicit in their actions. try and keep away and dont say anything to anyone for gods sake - the messenger does get shot - i know this from experience