Around 17 months ago I discovered my dh's EA. He swears that at the time it wasn't physical and only became physical once I'd discovered and threw him out.
We were apart for some months but agreed to give it another go. It's been a really hard period since and I still don't trust him.
Tonight I found a text on his phone from someone with a male name referring to him as sweetie. I confronted him and he gave some old bullshit.
He swore to me that it was innocent - yeah right like I believe that one - and we parted company not on friendly terms.
When he was asleep I checked his phone and found a message - addressed to a man but not the same one - saying Miss You So Much x.
I've forwarded both texts and nos to my phone and having done a bit of digging have found out that it's indeed a woman - both nos belong to same woman - and someone I know that he knows in London. Says it's been a working relationship and that he's known her for some years.
He's now trying to tell me that he didn't send that text - having sneakily deleted it - and that I'm imagining things. How can he go on and deny it when I read the bloody thing. Just how stupid does he think I am.
We're meant to be going on holiday with our three children in less than 2 weeks time. Clearly now I can't be with him but he's hiding his head in the sand and saying there's nothing going on. Well, bollocks to that.
How can he continue to lie in the face of the evidence?
I've texted her asking her if she's having an affair with my husband - no reply to that one
So, what next?