hi,
i live with my partner and we are expecting our first child in november. we are very different people and in the past always managed to work through it (usually me having to change). i am an introverted,creative,sensitive and intuitive person and he is a sociable, control freaky, micro-manage every detail person. Our differences seemed for a while to compliment one another, but now that i'm pregnant it all has got serious. I know i'm crap at making decisions, even sometimes having any kind of ideas when put on the spot. i tend to go with the flow, or when pressured zone out. he needs everything to be timetabled and known. he thinks i should go to see a counsellor to fix my 'problems'. This was from an incident yesterday when he asked what i would like to do for the day together. the more he stressed me out with the importance of this decision, the less i could think straight and he eventually blew up and said i had to get this fixed as he had done all he could with me.
before we met i had made my peace with myself and accepted myself, i knew i would never be the one dancing on the tables but i have other qualities that make me unique. now i just seem to have so many things 'wrong' with me. his expectations are so high and i'm so angry it's always me that has to try to change. he is self employed and i have to remind him he's not my boss.
sorry it's so long. i am once again being pro active and enrolling on an nlp course and booking a counsellor to help with my confidence. but i am so sad at the moment.