I have been with my OH for 14 years and we have 2 DCs. We had a great relationship until DC2 was about 3 yrs. I don't know how it has all gone wrong. OH doesn't appear to like me never mind love me or have any respect for me.
I have written this post about 4 times and then started again because it sounds so daft.
OH will not have sex with me which is hard for me. He says he is tired. He has been saying this for about 8 years. I can't remember the last time we had sex, last year some time. He also shows me no affection whatsoever. If i go to give him a hug/kiss he pushes me away but in a jokey manner. If I sit next to him on the sofa in the evening he doesn't like it and will move.
OH works hard all week and isn't home until late so when weekend comes i like to do things together. Every weekend is the same i plan something - sometimes its a trip to zoo or something, sometimes just to visit local park ot see friends. OH never comes because he's tired. Last year i even went on holiday on my own because he wouldn't come as it would be too hot. Every day on that holiday i cried once the kids had gone to bed. Funnily enough it wasn't too hot for a lads holiday though. Basically when he's not in work he just slumps in front of the TV and drinks. I am usually told that he works so hard etc am he needs to relax. We are having huge rows all the time.
OH only speaks to me if it is about the kids/ whats for dinner/or his day.
I have my own business and work from home. OH is also self employed and i do all his admin/accounts. I take the kids to school, work and then pick kids up. After kids in bed and chores done by 9.00pm I then do another 4 hours work. OH has never once asked me how my work is or anything about it. I overheard him telling his mate the other day that i didn't work WTF, working from home means watching tv all day in his world.
I feel like his flat mate rather than partner. We had a huge row on Thursday and i told him he would have to move out because I couldn't take much more. He stormed out to work but came home as normal that evening. He walked in and never mentioned it, so neither did i because i couldn't take another row. Saturday night - we were sat having a drink together in the kitchen (v rare) and he very calmly said that he would never move out of the house and he would never allow me to take his children. He then calmly started talking about what sort of takeway to order. I stunned because in the past when i have suggested we have problems in our relationship he justs says he's tired etc and when the kids are teenagers/leave home etc things will be better. This is the first time he has said anything which suggests he know this relationship is in big trouble.
Sorry thats long