Not seen my BF in a month and he phones up like nothing has happened??, wanting to see me!

[Ambers123]

Am I being unreasonable, my nearly ex BF has phoned up after being away for a week with his pals, saying he wants to see me , we have not seen each other in a month, and the last time I said I would come and see him he put me off, is he for real or what?

It's easier to help people if the OP isn't changing names in the middle of a thread. Start other threads with different named but it's common sense to use the same name on 1 thread. Doesn't it?

So are you meeting up with him or not? And if so is it to confirm it's over or for a shag?

He lives 100 miles away. I think there's your problem

I know it is a nuisance to change my name but did not realise it would come on this thread , as I am new to MUMs net, sorry to piss anyone off.

BitsyVonMuffling-yep your right the distance just kills it - thanks!

Nooo not meeting up a phone call will all he will be getting !

I have no idea of your other threads but this sounds like a bloke who is simply Not That Into You. Why bother chasing him?

Cheers!

Nearly ex? There's no such thing. Sort of being together? No such thing.

This is a waste of your time.

Move on. Don't bother contacting again.

Yep think the message is sinking in, as well as a sinking feeling, thanks.

I would have considered this person just an occassional hookup/shag or fling unless agreed otherwise. Nowt wrong with having a strong relationship with someone who lives that far away, plenty of people do, but this sounds like he wanted to keep it casual.

Yes your right but he was full on at the start phoning every night for about 4 months coming down every 2 weeks or i would go there , how things change i feel an old fool.

Sorry, wecan, he appears to have lost interest. It happens - it's not a nice thing but you just have to chalk it up to experience. Don't feel a fool, we've all been there! He's not your boyfriend, don't keep chasing, just bin him and move on.

Thanks SpareOhs, I know it was such fun thought it might lead to more oh dear i need to wake up and smell the coffee!, and no I will not chase any man never have and never will.

Oh, yes, it happens! Plenty of us have been there and bought the tshirt. Onwards and upwards.

Thanks for the support all of you guys on here makes me keep things in perspective.

Sounds like you have been downgraded to an option instead of being seen as the girlfriend. The website Baggage Reclaim (don't know how to link sorry) has loads of really good articles on this kind of relationship which you might find useful. Everything starts off as usual but over time you are gradually moved into 'fallback' position and left feeling confused as to what has changed - maybe that's what happened here.

Thanks NorthWitch i will definatley check the website out and the way you surmised the situation is exactly the right way to put it , appreciate it.