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Anybody just happy?

53 replies

Dutchie77 · 06/07/2011 14:38

Been reading all these awful stories in this thread about divorce (been through that too), abuse, partners who don't care or are not involved, affairs....

Just wanted to say that I am very happy! I am now 16 weeks +5 pregnant. My partners supports me very well (even when I was crying for three days, being utterly grumpy and depressed). He brings me the things I need from shopping, without me having to ask... makes me cups of tea....snuggles me a lot....takes time to listen to me.... we talk about our worries.......calms me down when I'm stressed......doesn't let me lift anything... We are in good balance with each other.

Any one as happy as I am? Blush

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Al0uiseG · 06/07/2011 17:58

Happy Birthday. Agree with TFSOF (occasionally) 40's are the best :)

TheFarSideOfFuck · 06/07/2011 18:03

you agree with me, occasionally ?

or that your 40's are, occasionally, the best ?

Grin
Al0uiseG · 06/07/2011 18:10

Good point, well made. Punctuate that! :o

Funtimewincies · 06/07/2011 18:18

Happy here too, if a little stressed Grin.

I've given much though to the subject of happiness and my personal gauge/list is...

My children are healthy and happy (most of the time).
I'm married to a good man whom I love and who loves me.
We have enough money at present to keep our heads above water.
I have a small number of good friends on whom I can rely.
I feel safe in my home and get on with my neighbours.
The hobbies I do give me great pleasure.
I look forward to whatever the next day brings.

I'm 36, so hopeful that my 40s will be even better Grin!

pennydog · 06/07/2011 18:22

78 happy years,with lovely man, daughters and grandaughters plus one greatgrandaughter, life is sweet.

FooffyShmoofferschinhair · 06/07/2011 18:22

Yes, very happy Smile

TheFarSideOfFuck · 06/07/2011 18:23

FTW, with an attitude like that they will be Smile

Al0uiseG · 06/07/2011 18:32

Pennydog! Get thee to Gransnet! :o

FTW: Not a bad gauge list, I just wish i had some hobbies :o

SirSugar · 06/07/2011 18:46

very content, which for me equates to happiness. But in the past I have been desperately unhappy for quite a few years; during that time though my glass still remained half full and I knew that nothing stays the same forever Smile

Funtimewincies · 06/07/2011 19:27

Grin ThefarSide.

Al0 - my 2 main ones are Jive dancing and pottering slaving away on the allotment. Both are great for exercise and just leaving other stuff behind IYSMIM Grin.

Dh works away/abroad a lot of the time, so it takes a bit of juggling Confused but it's worth it.

Having a greatgrandaughter (as well as the others obviously Smile must be fabulous Penny!

bubaluchy · 06/07/2011 19:43

This is a lovely thread I am very happy too,
My DP is gorgeous, kind and we share the same interests, my family are all lovely people and we all get on without any weird undercurrents and really rejoice in each others happiness and my employers (Im a nanny) treat me with so much love and respect I am sure Ill be with them for years to come Smile

GrownUpNow · 06/07/2011 19:59

Yes, I am happy.

I am with a man who pursued me for a good year or so and was always patient and respected my boundaries when I said I wasn't in the right place for a relationship.

We are now officially together and I'm all loved up, we're enjoying the lust honeymoon where we can't keep our hands off each other (god he is great in bed), talking about moving in together and generally just happy.

He's a great father to his son, and treats my children exactly the same, with great respect but firmness and they are responding to his influence really well, which has in turn made me a calmer parent.

We're off on holiday together in August, which is really exciting as it was something I couldn't do for my children on my own. And having his company will make it a great time for me too.

He has just had me at his house for a week while I was suffering a UTI and kidney stones and was great, when I needed to sleep he sent me off and was responsible for my DD, he cooked when I couldn't and generally nursed me better.

I'm going to enjoy this as long as it lasts, work to keep it as pleasant as it is, which involves lots of open discussion about how we feel and also self-examination of expectations. I've never had such a grown up relationship before, it shows I have moved on leaps and bounds recently, and it's nice to have a mature partner who recognises the need for this too. As well as being silly enough to make me giggle until I almost pee.

TheFarSideOfFuck · 06/07/2011 21:21

wow, GUN, you sound great together Smile

ohgawdherewegoagain · 06/07/2011 21:24

not at the moment, I'm not! I'm such an idiot!

EttiKetti · 07/07/2011 05:57

Very happy, altho I was very happy as a LP before I met DH too Wink

kaluki · 07/07/2011 11:49

What a lovely thread! Makes a nice change Smile
I'm happy too.
I have two beautiful dc, a nice house and a fantastic DP who would (and does) do absolutely anything for me, not only that but he is bloody gorgeous and I still fancy the pants off him. My family are all healthy and I have the best friends in the world.
For the first time in my life I'm totally contented and don't want anything to change.
I'm in my 40s too and it is the best decade of my life.

poppygolucky · 08/07/2011 10:26

DD is 2 weeks old tomorrow. I have sore nipples, am sleep deprived and haven't left the house since we came home from hospital.

I can honestly say I have never been happier :)

fastweb · 08/07/2011 10:54

I am content.

Nitpicker that I am I don't like the use of "happy" to describe my relationship, because it sets the expectation bar too high of how I should consistently feel if all is well within the relationship.

I am thoroughly content with my relationship to the extent that whether I am grabbing DH by the neck with delight (in huggy way, not a headlock kind of way) or growling at him for his sock littering habit, I wouldn't swap partners with anybody else in the world.

Because, in good times and bad, he has always been the man I met, chose and married and he makes me a priority to the same extent I make him one.

If I had "happy" as my benchmark I'd feel like I'd have to whirling around like Snow White in a permanently chirpy mood. The strain of which would drive me to become a psychotic dwarf squashing, helpful bird swatting harpy.

I need the space to be the generally grumpy, old woman I am whilst still being able to see the positive nature of my relationship.

And yes I am aware I am being very picky indeed linguistically.Grin

Al0uiseG · 08/07/2011 13:36

Awww Poppy, how lovely :) I remember that feeling vaguely.

Carminagetsprimal · 08/07/2011 13:40

Yes - extremely happy. A lot happier than I was this time last year.

onehellofaride · 08/07/2011 13:50

not totally... but I will be Smile

Florabeebaby · 09/07/2011 09:37

So happy...10 year anniversary coming up in September with DH, my little premature princess is now 6m old and developing normally. Could not be happier!

LoveMyGirls · 09/07/2011 09:44

I'm mostly happy, apart from when I have PMT then I start to doubt my life, I feel too tired and everything feels overwhelming but today I am very happy. We could have less debt, our own house etc but the main thing is we are happy and healthy and have the means to get ourselves out of debt if we keep working hard and eventually save for a house. The only thing that worries me is the tories being in power and ruining my world as I know it, it feels like the bottom could fall out of it anytime and it makes me anxious about the future for my children.

pranma · 09/07/2011 19:06

I'm very happy :) In 23rd year of wonderful marriage to a very special man.It is my 3rd marriage.Marriage 1 ended in divorce[cliche affair with my 'best friend].Dh2 died when I was 42 and he was 46.We had 2 wonderful dc together.married dh3 18 months later and got 3 lovely steps with him.Fast forward to today-all dc happily married,good careers, 9 gorgeous dgc.I am 4 and a half years on from breast cancer[so far so good].I have lost 3 stones[WW].I am 67 and may be happier than ever before....but I know how it feels to be sad.

CDMforever · 09/07/2011 21:33
  1. I have 3 wonderful, healthy DCs. They often sometimes regularly drive me mad but they are exquisitely special.
  2. I have a lovely DH who although can be the most annoying git on the planet, also makes me feel special and loved and tells me almost every day how lucky he is to have me. He's a great kisser too....
  3. I have fabulous friends with whom I can talk and feel listened to.
  4. My parents are amazingly brilliant, loving, giving and can't do enough for me and my family.
Buuuuuuut......I have to be honest and say that at the moment I don't feel all that happy. I feel extremely stupid for feeling this way as I know how lucky I am but there seems to be a barrier stopping me from enjoying my life. I have 2 young DCs and am a SAHM which I do find very very hard so maybe thats behind my feeling low. I wish I could wave a wand, count my blessings and BE HAPPY! Any ideas anyone???