boring old fart

[sansouci]

my so-called "darling" husband is a tight-fisted boring old fart of a bean counter. I want to run far away from him. I can't believe that such an awful man could produce such wonderful children. i hate him! grrrrr.

what's he done????

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I'm waiting.....

I need to rant or i'll go downstairs and have a massive row. sorry.

spill then...

okay. here goes: ds is 2. he is still in his cot & sleeps with his blanket over his head, not his body. The house gets chilly at night & so ds wakes crying cos he's cold, right? so tight-fisted naff idiot husband agrees i can use his effing credit card to buy some footed sleepsuits from Lands End over the internet. (my bloody card is maxed out cos I don't get paid for all the work i do, damn, hell, grind teeth in frustration.) So I'm ordering the stuff & old grouchy meano says "give me the card, i don't want you ordering for hundreds. tell me the total when you're finished & i'll give you back the card." So I toss it back to him & tell him basically to get stuffed.

sensible old fart how much were you gonna bash the cc for?

well, I would have shoved it up his arse (the card) then made sure he gets up when ds cries

Sounds sensible to me!!

"Fine!" I say. "Let N. freeze to death, ya tight-fisted geezer. What do you think I'm going to do, order a bloody diamond ring?"

I am so pissed off that I would happily walk out.

Please advise.

OMG

Tell him how much you were gonna spend and he will give you the card back

It's a question of trust. How can he treat me this way? F%ck him!

But sansouci, he gave you the card to buy the sleeping bag.... all he was having a go at you about was that you might buy more and spend a fortune. You were the one that threw the card back at him and refused to order the bags...... so YOU have refused to buy them in a temper!

Do you have a habit of spending a wee bit more than you should on the credit card? I assume so if you have one thats at its limit!

duck

You've every reason to be angry.I would go nuts if my dh did something like this.

EeneyMeeney - totally agree with you! He must have a reason to think you'll blow a fortune with his card!!!!!

I am going nuts. This vile man makes me so angry from time to time that I wonder if I am still completely sane. I seriously think I would leave him if it weren't for the children.

I know this probably sounds really stupid to most of you who actually have real problems but it so infuriates me that i have to tell you about it. I mean, how could I ring up a friend or my mother or someone I actually know & admit to this hideously embarassing incident?

Why did I marry an effing accountant? Who's 13 years my senior? And already divorced once!

Have you previously spent a load when you were meant to be just getting one thing, or something specific?
or is he just being an arse?

SS - My dh is the same. I mention that I need to go to Tesco, and he says, 'Don't buy stuff we don't need.' Yes, I do have a habit of being a little frivolous...that's why I do not have a credit card. Things seem such good value at the time

Ask him to order the night stuff.

Yes, I can see where you are coming from, but I am used to that attitude!

I've learned to be careful with money, especially now that I'm no longer gainfully employed but yes, I have overspent in the past. This does NOT excuse his appalling behavior.

I think it does. If I thought someone was going to overdo it on my credit card and i was going to be left picking up the bill id want to ok the amount.