Do they have to say they love you?

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I am feeling very confused. I've changed my name because this is very personal for me. I absolutely LOVE my bf. It wasn't instant by any stretch of the imagination, but I know now that it's definately there, and I've never felt this way before. We've been together almost six months, but have known each other for almost two and a half years. I couldn't ask for more from him, physically everything is great, he's even happy for me to just fall straight asleep for weeks on end and not see any action And he is amazing with my dd. I have told him I love him, but he never says it back. Is this just guy thing? It's beginning to really upset me, as even though things are great, it seems that something is stopping him saying it. Should I just put it down to being one of those things and forget it?
TIA x

have you tried asking him about it? its hard to give an opinion on a specific relationship but some men do presume we know and others do have difficulty saying it, then again the flip side of the coin is that he is not sure himself. I really think you need to speak to him for reassurance.

Why does he really needs to? He is great with you and your child. That is the 'man' way of showing love. They don't understand that words mean emotion to a woman. They think actions prove love, well...if they ever actually stop to think about it.

Just relax and enjoy the fun.

I'd talk to him about it as it's obviously bothering you, and things like this have a habit of growing out of proportion when they aren't addressed.

Just so you know you aren't unusual with this, after 18 years Dh still tends to say 'me too' when I say I love him! Luckily it doesn't bother me any more - I just see it as DH shorthand.

Thanks.I suppose there's no real reason he needs to apart from my own silly insecurities

My dh didn't tell me he loved me until we'd been together for 6 or 7 months - he felt that saying it meant some kind of commitment, so wanted to be sure before he committed rather than saying something that might come back and bite him on the bum!

Six months isn't all that long really; if he's not saying it in another couple of months it might be an issue but as long as everything else is OK I wouldn't worry too much about it just yet.

I would say to stop telling him, esp if you think you might be saying it so you can hear it said back to you. You have only been with each other as a couple for 6 months and if it's meant to be with the two of you there's no rush. Just enjoy it for what it is. You don't need to say you love someone, or hear it, to reconfirm that everything is ok. It is. You sound like a lucky woman

Yeah I believe Reindior hit it right on the head. DP always believes he "shows" me love rather than "says" he loves me. We have had arguments about it in the past where he has complained that words are not enough and I have complained that he doesn't say it as much as I do.

But now, 7 years on I truly believe he does love me for what he puts up with from me!!!

The longer you are with man you more you realise what a different species they are to us